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I catch myself checking out the women in my gym a lot. I want to make it clear that I feel awful about this. Sometimes I catch myself making excuses for myself, “oh they work out all the time, of course they’re gonna look good.” But I know it’s wrong, I even catch myself ogling the pictures on the wall. What can I do to stop this behavior? I find it embarrassing and creepy myself.
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How about start dating if you are still single.?
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#3
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You didn't mention if you're male or female yourself. I'm going to presume male.
![]() Now we've come around to a place where one finds it to be an embarrassing, creepy & wrong thing to do. Oh well... times change. ![]() What I've taught myself to do, whenever I have the urge to do anything I'd prefer not to do, is to simply allow that urge to be there, feel it fully, breathe into it, & perhaps even smile to it, allowing the urge (whatever it is) to dissipate on its own at its own pace (while not doing whatever it is I'd prefer not to do, of course.) It takes a bit of practice to learn to do this. But, over time, it becomes more-or-less second nature. This practice is not necessarily going to make your urge to girl-watch go away. Again, assuming you're a guy, girl-watching is pretty-much hardwired into your brain, I believe. But this practice is at least a way of managing your urge to girl-watch (or to do something else you have the urge to do but would prefer not to.) This is a practice that is referred to as: compassionate abiding. Here's a link to a description of the practice: Relieve Distress By Allowing It: Compassionate Abiding 101 | Mindset: Perspective Is Everything May it be of benefit. ![]()
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I think you’re right I’m just overreacting. I think I’m more worried about the embarrassment of getting caught checking people out than what I am doing. As long as I’m not intensely staring for several seconds I shouldn’t be so worried.
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I don't think it is a big deal. If they catch you, just smile and look away. I think it is natural really.
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Quote:
1) feel awful about it 2) feel that everyone else would agree that one must feel awful about it ?
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When you say oggling what do you mean? Checking women out is natural I would think...
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I think one reason I feel bad about it is that I tend to think of myself as sympathetic towards feminism. So I think I feel like a hypocrite.
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