I met someone recently, and I can't make sense of him

I'm a 31 year old with mental health issues, however, and I've demonstrated some pretty severe impulsive behavior recently.

All of my therapists have said my development has been hindered by my continuing to live and depend on them. One more or less accused my father of having Munchhausen by Proxy syndrome.


The reason my current therapist is in favor of exploring my sexuality is because he feels it would give me some autonomy. I agree. I've at least 'felt' more adult since my experience with the first guy.

I am annoyed that he's pushing me to out myself. He lives by himself, in an isolated area with few neighbors, with his son--the only family member he still has any relationship with--living in Florida (we're in Illinois...). It's much easier for him to do this.

Are you able to give examples of this, just to understand you better?

I have a 20yr old son with special needs. In terms of maturity, he functions at a younger age, too.. maybe 14-16, depending on the day. So when you mentioned you're at a young teen's maturity level, I wondered if you had special needs, too. You don't text in that way, though.. and surely your guy would have questioned it, too. So it makes me wonder why you're stuck at that age. What happened to you when you were that age (did you say 12?)

Munchausen syndrome.. yes, I've geard of that, and definitely concerning. Something sounds off to me.

You say you suffer from depression and are impulsive. I'm not sure what other health issues you're referring to that prevents you from leading an independent life apart from your parents. Do you pay them rent? Are they benefiting from you staying there?

I totally agree!! There's nothing to be ashamed of. Maybe it's time you explore other parts of you, too.

He lives with his son but is closeted and wants you to spend the nights? Does his son know? I don't live in the states so I'm not sure how far that is from each other..?

The guy and I live in the Mid West. His son lives way down south in Florida. They don't live together. He's also described his son as 'a big homophobe', so obviously he can't know anything about this.

I forgot to mention that he said I could pretend to be his 'nephew or something' if any neighbors come snooping around if I were to live with him....I could tell my dad he is 'just some guy I met' whose renting me a room....


I don't want to get into what's been happening lately as far as my mental health in this thread. It's not good, though.


I've been diagnosed with major depression and social anxiety disorder. I was tested as being on the autism spectrum when I was 24 by a specialist, but not one therapist or psychiatrist I have seen in the 7 years since then has agreed with that diagnoses.


My former psychologist thought maybe my dad was coddling me out of his own fear of being alone. He and my mother, for as long as I've known them, have lived as roommates who don't particularly care for each other. He thought my dad needs me to think of me as being mentally ill in order to justify keeping me around.