Mummy issues

Hi everyone I’m mick a 52 year old from Kent in England, my mum used to dress me as a girl and plenty of spankings too most knew or even witnessed it so was a tough time growing up , fast forward to now I’m nit sure if I’m a sissy as I do crossdress but the main thing that I’ve not told anyone is that mum still spanks me but I enjoy the shame and humiliation of it and she threatens to tell me wife , I don’t think she would but it all adds to the shame

Although I do not suffer from the same things you mentioned, I definitely have things in my life that lead me to feel shame. Deep shame in fact. So I can definitely identify with you.

I don't know if this will help you, but I think it is important sometimes to try to put our lives in perspective.

There are all kinds of things human beings feel shame or guilt about. But shamefulness is a range of values. Think of people like Hitler and Stalin who caused the destruction of tens of millions of men, women and children through their desire for genocide.

Now to me, that is something truly shameful.

Most of us do not have situations or habits that result in the loss of tens of millions of lives, or millions of lives, or hundreds of thousands of lives, or thousands or hundreds of lives.

So sometimes, perhaps, we feel a level of shame that is inappropriate.

I think we maybe should try to keep our feelings of shame in perspective.

You don't have any habits that result in the destruction of tens of millions of men, women and children so I hope you will not be too hard on yourself and cause yourself needless distress.

I hope you will try to keep things in perspective. It might help you.

Most of us, I think can say with truthfulness: "There are a lot of worse things I could be! And I am not those worse things, thank goodness!"

We each have a little three-pound brain. And each one is formed by genetics and environmental influences.

Often our brains seem to have minds of their own. The ideas that pop into our consciousness from our brain don't always conform to ideals that society values.

But what is the use of beating up our brains, metaphorically speaking, for their oddities. Our brains do not deserve that. They work tirelessly, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week to try to keep us alive and healthy.

So I think, that perhaps we often should be more compassionate to our own brains and not focus too much on one or two things and thus lose perspective.

Some things we are ashamed of, we shouldn't be. And some things we are ashamed of, we are too ashamed of because we have lost our perspective.

What do you think?

Thank you for your response and yes when you compare it to huge things in Life my problems don’t seem that bad and maybey I shouldn’t feel so much shame but like everything else we are told what’s normal and what’s not so your brain tells me I’m kinky and probably a pathetic guy at my age but I shall think about the advice you have given ,so thank you for that