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Default Mar 22, 2024 at 02:35 AM
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Sexual attraction is normal. I’m experiencing it this intensely only now. My friend’s mom has been very supportive. She said it’s normal, sexual hormones make us do impulsive things, and not think before acting. Does this mean that someone would be sexually attracted to you, but later not want anything to do with you. Since the guy I was involved with said very vaguely, (and I am still upset about it) that he used to find ways to sleep with people. I am in shock. Gimme a minute. Will post again.
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Default Mar 22, 2024 at 02:48 AM
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He said he felt like kissing me, because he trusted me. He said he can’t fully relax, and physical comfort helped him relax. He wanted friends with benefits, I said I don’t want that. He said he’s not ready for a relationship. Confusing right? When I hugged him, he said he feels like doing more, like kissing me.
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Default Mar 22, 2024 at 04:38 AM
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I do not think it’s confusing. People crave physical intimacy but don’t always want to be in a relationship. I think this guy is very direct by telling you what he wants. If you don’t want the same thing, then don’t continue with him.

Yes it’s not uncommon to feel sexual attraction toward someone but don’t want to have anything to do with them because sexual attraction doesn’t mean this is the person for you in a long run.
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Default Mar 22, 2024 at 05:17 AM
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There’s a psychological need I have which I seem to be compensating with this sexual craving.
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There’s a psychological need I have which I seem to be compensating with this sexual craving.
It’s very normal too. I had that happened too. I was just commenting that he seems honest about his needs. I didn’t find it confusing
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Default Mar 22, 2024 at 07:45 AM
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I agree. He was honest. But I won’t give him a prize for doing a good thing. Honest but wanting the wrong thing. It is wonderful to be loved fully rather than just sexually.
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I agree. He was honest. But I won’t give him a prize for doing a good thing. Honest but wanting the wrong thing. It is wonderful to be loved fully rather than just sexually.
I don’t know why you say he wants the wrong thing. It’s not the wrong thing for him. It’s just different from what you want.

It is wonderful to be loved fully. But what we see is what we get. It does not mean you can’t meet right man in the future. This one just isn’t it.
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Good point. He doesn’t see it as wrong.
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Good point. He doesn’t see it as wrong.
And why would he. It’s not wrong. He’s single and unattached. As long as he is up front with potential partners, he’s not wrong.

It sounds that you want something from this man he cannot provide
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