Home Menu

Menu



advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Daveamec
Newly Joined
 
Member Since Nov 2023
Location: Sydney
Posts: 1
Default Apr 09, 2024 at 03:49 PM
  #1
My wife and I been married for about 10 years having 2 children. She has been deeply in love with me so I have as well. She is very social person, active in her business with lots of friends which I know most of them. There has been one specific friend to whom my wife is in close relationship, beautiful woman , socialize person to whom my wife is in close relationship and they go out with other friends and collogues. She has been single, very professional and lovely person. In the last 3-4 years, my wife travelled with her for work and short holiday with no issue. She also invited her few time to our house for dinner who spent the night at our house and leaving the next day. Couple of times, I asked her about her boyfriend or single situation which she did not feel comfortable to address my question so I forgot that. Few times in our summer house I asked her to come into the pool and swim with us and play with children which she denied for some reasons and I did not insist neither my wife. Around few weeks ago in our villa, my wife asked me as she and her friend would like to spend sometime in sauna later in the night and would like to be alone which I did not see any issue. However out of curiosity, I approached the sauna and found something shocking. I saw my wife giving her friend Oral S and when I looked carefully i noticed her friend with a male productive part. I went inside right away and both of them screamed and shocked. I found her friend is a transexual woman with a male organ. Later in the night, my wife admitted she is in deep love with her friend and they have had a full intercourse and sexual penetration over the last couple of years.

She says she loves me and she does not want separation and I do not really know what to do. She is asking me to be a part of this romantic relationship as she cannot break up with her friend. I am very confused and need help for next action.
Daveamec is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote

advertisement
VabGirl
Member
 
Member Since Jul 2021
Location: virginia
Posts: 323
3
35 hugs
given
Default Apr 09, 2024 at 07:23 PM
  #2
If you arent comfortable with it then its time to move on and fast!!
VabGirl is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Nammu
Crone
 
Nammu's Avatar
 
Member Since May 2010
Location: Some where between my inner mind and the solar system.
Posts: 73,822 (SuperPoster!)
14
56.9k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Apr 09, 2024 at 11:55 PM
  #3
Your wife needs to make a choice. She can’t have her cake and eat it too! I’d start by saying this “friend” is no longer welcome in your home.

__________________
Nammu
…Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …...
Desiderata Max Ehrmann



Nammu is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
divine1966
Legendary Wise Elder
 
divine1966's Avatar
 
Member Since Dec 2014
Location: US
Posts: 22,878 (SuperPoster!)
9
1,294 hugs
given
Default Apr 10, 2024 at 11:59 AM
  #4
Well your wife cheated on you in your own house. For years. I think her wanting you to partake in this is the least of the issues here. She lied and it’s just never ok
divine1966 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Reply



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
How do you engage yourself? Daonnachd Bipolar 10 Jul 12, 2015 12:53 PM
Weird situation with my wife. otroo Bipolar 10 Aug 03, 2013 09:02 AM
need help in dealing with wife's situation rrajago New Member Introductions 5 Apr 25, 2013 09:36 PM
Engage. Anonymous32795 Psychotherapy 5 May 09, 2012 08:51 AM
Engage in communication? Mouse_ Dissociative Disorders 4 Feb 28, 2008 05:36 PM


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 12:41 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.