Wife asking me to engage with the situation with her lover

My wife and I been married for about 10 years having 2 children. She has been deeply in love with me so I have as well. She is very social person, active in her business with lots of friends which I know most of them. There has been one specific friend to whom my wife is in close relationship, beautiful woman , socialize person to whom my wife is in close relationship and they go out with other friends and collogues. She has been single, very professional and lovely person. In the last 3-4 years, my wife travelled with her for work and short holiday with no issue. She also invited her few time to our house for dinner who spent the night at our house and leaving the next day. Couple of times, I asked her about her boyfriend or single situation which she did not feel comfortable to address my question so I forgot that. Few times in our summer house I asked her to come into the pool and swim with us and play with children which she denied for some reasons and I did not insist neither my wife. Around few weeks ago in our villa, my wife asked me as she and her friend would like to spend sometime in sauna later in the night and would like to be alone which I did not see any issue. However out of curiosity, I approached the sauna and found something shocking. I saw my wife giving her friend Oral S and when I looked carefully i noticed her friend with a male productive part. I went inside right away and both of them screamed and shocked. I found her friend is a transexual woman with a male organ. Later in the night, my wife admitted she is in deep love with her friend and they have had a full intercourse and sexual penetration over the last couple of years.

She says she loves me and she does not want separation and I do not really know what to do. She is asking me to be a part of this romantic relationship as she cannot break up with her friend. I am very confused and need help for next action.

If you arent comfortable with it then its time to move on and fast!!

Your wife needs to make a choice. She can’t have her cake and eat it too! I’d start by saying this “friend” is no longer welcome in your home.

Well your wife cheated on you in your own house. For years. I think her wanting you to partake in this is the least of the issues here. She lied and it’s just never ok