[Cityworld75]

Hi, I feel my boyfriend likes women in general ALOT. This can be witnessed in the porn images/videos, magazines he views and he is excited and aroused when with me. However, he recently admitted to me if a guy were to give him a hand job, it would make him erect! I know I need to find out more info. from him about this but what are people's immediate thoughts about this?! Thanks

[Webgoji]

A few things in my opinion. First, it might just be him talking freely and he wouldn't actually act on it. Or, maybe he's somewhat bisexual. Or, he might be testing the waters on what you like since some women have fantasies about watching two men together.

So yeah, could be one of a number of things I think.

[bixkf]

CityWorld,

I agree with Goji, that he's likely just talking to you about something he's thought about and he realizes that it arouses him. It would be good to talk more with him to understand where the desires have come from and how he feels about them. I personally have many desires and fantasies that get me really aroused and erect, but I wouldn't necessarily tell others about them or act upon them.
The thing your boyfriend needs is your compassionate ear, without any judgement. If he needs help dealing with the feelings, then help him. I don't mean that you have to encourage him to explore, but all relationships need to be built on truth and honesty. If he is discouraged or hesitant to confide in you, then he will be more likely to hide things from you in the future.

[bighands]

If you're struggling in your relationship with him, then it could be a sign of his true sexuality and he's trying to let you know. If your relationship is good, you should be enthused that he trusted in you enough to admit something that was pretty risky to admit.

You have to consider his age too. If he is young, his hormones are raging. Hell, in my teens & 20s, I would've gotten erect if a crocodile stroked my penis with a cheese grater. Guys are horn dawgs for sexual satisfaction and it doesn't take much to get them worked up.

[Flummixed]

It does take a tremendous amount of courage to discuss something like this with anyone in general much less your mate. I struggled with the fact that I'm bisexual and in my earlier days was with both men and women but it took 7 years of marriage before I let my wife know. To my relief and surprise she thought it was hot! I actually miss being with men but I am committed to my wife.