Using sexual favors to get what I want

Is that wrong of me to do??

When I want something and I know my husband will dispute it, I will offer him a bj.... I used to feel like a hooker, but I've gotten used to it. Does that make me like a hoe or something?

He gives me anything I want this way and I savor them for when I really want something, even for money.....jeez, maybe I shouldn't be telling ya'll this...but I wonder.

Hmmmmmmmm - the jury is still out on this one.

I sometimes do the same thing: to achieve a more peaceful household or to prevent an argument or lessen his resistance to me doing something like go out with a group of friends later in the week. I feel like a manipulating *****, but sometimes it's worth it just not to deal with a bunch of his ********. Mostly I just feel guilty. I'd really like to give it up because I wanted to .

I use to have to do things like this if I wanted to go shopping with a friend. hubby would say you can go if you have sex with me first. I hated it.

I use to have to do things like this if I wanted to go shopping with a friend. hubby would say you can go if you have sex with me first. I hated it. this is an ex hubby btw

I'm not so concerned about what is says about YOU, Desirae, but rather what it says about your husband....

now why cant my wife go that route!

(ok i know im not being helpful, but it is discouraging because my wife is so asexual anymore)

Cant say I do......

If I want it I ask for it if I dont then he dont get it, somtimes he asks and I feel like it etc but never will I go for it unless I want it.

i think you already know the answer or else you wouldnt have asked the question.

No, it doesn't make you a hoe or a hooker because he is your husband.

I am wondering what types of things that you are wanting, in which you have to use this method to get them?

I mean, is it something that your husband should not restrict you from doing such as going to the store or going out with friends?

Is it something outrageous like an expensive piece of jewelry?

You did mention money.

I guess I would be concerned about the following things:

1. Why can't you communicate verbally in order to ask for these things?
2. Why do you want things these so badly that you can't take no for an answer, so you resort to sexual favors?
3. Depending on what the things are that you are asking for, why can't your husband give them do you and/or why do you need to be dependent on him?
4. Why does your husband change his mind once he gets the sexual favor? Why can't he change his mind aside from a sexual situation?

The behavior itself really isn't the important point. Big deal, so you are giving your husband blow jobs. That doesn't make you any of the things you mentioned. I think you need to take a look at what is underneath this behavior. Even what is underneath the motivation for this behavior. Becase we already know that you do in in order to gain something that your husband will dispute-- so try to look even beyond that.

I sometimes do the same thing or I will give a sexual treat after the fact to ease any confrontation about what I bought or did... or I will buy something for him too...

Do you mind doing it?? Or is it your husband that is kind of 'using' you, turning it around so he gets what HE wants?

If that makes sense, I didnt mean any offence or disrespect against your husband or anything..

babyg xXx

Pinksoil brings up a good point.

It does not really matter what others think of the act. What matters is how it makes you feel. If you feel bad afterwards, you need to evaluate your reasoning for doing it.

Your husband may begin to expect these kinds of things everytime you want something.

If it works for you and your not feeling way guilty after, then don't worry about it...???

But if your feeling guilty afterwards and its interferring
then I would say its time to re-evaluate the situation??

Different strokes for different folks...?? IDK...it takes all

types????

Don't make a mountain out of a mole Hill...???

I had a girlfriend whod try and bribe me like that, and it kinda fell apart because in the end I felt like she wasnt doing it cause she lovd me. I mean Im not saying it's the same with you but it was somethin we hard to work on, cause like chris said, I kinda started expectin the sex in a way I guess.

You are all rolled into one to your husband and so him to you. You just wrong in thinking you are a hooker...in the same manner if he will be thinking he is paying a hooker when you do what you did.

I think that it has to do with ...do you ever feel...leav the ***** thinga lone.

Do you enjoy sex with him or you feel like you hate it and doing it because you hate it?

I think that the guilty feeling may come from a subconcious thought that you deserve more respect than having to please your hasband sexually to get things you want from him!

I agree wiht pinksoil - what is it that you want? why can`t he be a good nice loving hasband? why don`t you have the freedom to do WHATEVER you want?

He doesn`t have the right t control you!

I think it may come also because you are FAKING sothing that you know can be a happy and lovely experience...and you are not exactly being your honest self...i think that it`s a respec issue..

You can do with your husband whatever you want....but you say you want him and he may feel complimented and just give you what you want because of that.

I think that if you feel guilty then stop this behaviour. You deserve a better attitude ....You should speak frankly and get what you want....

well its not a bad thing but i would suggest findin something different to get him to do things unless u want to continue doing such then go for it but there truelly is nothing to feel bad about