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Sep 20, 2008 at 12:04 AM
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I am a 34 year old woman. I fell deeply in love with a 23 year old. We meet when he was 20 and I was still married. I have divorced my husband and am now in a relationship with the love of my life. Recently ( because he lives very far away) he stayed with me for a significant amount of time. I had noticed a couple of times that my dildo had been left out. I asked him about it finally and he reluctantly explained that he was curious and had tried it out. I had asked him if he thought he was gay and he responded no, he loved me and loved women and he was not gay at all, just curious, then stated it hurt and he did not like it.
Upon a conversation ( while having phone sex) he admitted the second time he really liked the way it felt. On occasion when having phone sex he has brought up the fantasy of me using a strap on on him. Which will sometimes grow into another man having sex with him while I watch. I do believe he has a dominance fetish, and although I would be open to this, I am still terrified I am getting into a relationship with a man who may be gay. Please help me understand. thank you 
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Sep 20, 2008 at 09:02 AM
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I don't think just enjoying this type of penetration means he is gay. Some men just enjoy that. Can you open up a dialogue to talk about it with him in a way that doesn't make him feel ashamed about enjoying this type of play?
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Oct 03, 2008 at 07:34 PM
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I agree with Rainbowzz. Because men have kind of a "g-spot' that lies near his prostate and makes that kind of penetration enjoyable. It does'nt mean he's gay really he may just like the way it feels
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Oct 05, 2008 at 02:48 AM
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I don't know. I think the fact that he may want to have sex with a man while she watches, is a red flag. The fact that he maybe bisexual wouldn't cause me an issue, it's the fact that he may want to have sex with another person like in his fantasies. __________________ ....just my 2 cents. 
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