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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 09:49 AM
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OK girls, here goes.......

My wife of 35+ years is now post menopause at age 54. All of our marriage I would describe her as disinterested in sex unless I initiated it. She rarely was the aggressor, it was always me. Now things have come full circle. She is the aggressive one. Wants it all the time in any place or way. I mean things that are way out of her character. It is like she was in a locked room in the sex department and has now found her way out. Sex in the woods, sex in front of the campfire, on the table, in the truck, constantly grabbing me on the sly, etc. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE IT, she is wearing me out. My question is why now? We were on the verge of splitting up and then this big turn around.
It isn't an act either but, I feel like any minute she will change back to the old wife that sat in front of the tv and watched HGTV all night. She now takes walks, is losing weight, rides her bike and goes out with friends for dancing and drinks. I am not the jealous type so I don't mind it at all. I am just stunned, amazed, happy, can't believe my luck, etc. Any of you ladies out there have this happen to you?

Another stunner is she has become flirtatous with other men, although she said she would never have sex with anyone else but me. I can't contain my happiness, this is what I have always wanted. One last question....will it last?
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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 10:00 AM
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LOL Lucky you! I'd say pay attention to her, reward good behavior or bad behavior if that's what you like and enjoy the ride!
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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 12:02 PM
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I had a complete hysterectomy at the ripe old age of 24 so I went thru menopause at that age. sex was always good for me but when I hit 40 it was watch out! I wanted it all the time. I do however think my "downtime" was due to bad marriages. when things are good they are really good. maybe you changed a little towards your wife too?
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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 12:06 PM
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Heck, I don't know why, but YIPPY SKIPPY!!!!!!!!


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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 01:15 PM
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ok did you just start this thread to make us young guys (38) jealous because our (my) wife/wives has/have about as much interest in sex as she does watching sports!

Id say enjoy the ride!~
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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 02:28 PM
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All I can say is, IT'S GREAT TO HAVE A POST MENOPAUSAL WIFE!!! never in my wildest dreams did I expect this. Yes, Bebop I have changed toward her. I love her even more than before. It was worth all the trials and tribulations for this time to come.

It's been 2 times in one day, today. Eat you heart out Brian, lol I'm in love with her again, she is beautiful, sexy and Hot!!!! I'm over the edge, totally gone.....crazy in love with her.

You young guys, my advice to you, just wait.......it's worth it.

Last edited by 50guy; Sep 23, 2008 at 02:30 PM.. Reason: to add; I'm 52 and love her more than ever
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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 02:46 PM
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hahaa what I meant was had you changed towards her before the change in her? silly man! often times when a man starts showing his love in a different way or turns more considerate or things like that it awakens those feelings in us women!
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Default Sep 23, 2008 at 02:53 PM
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I ain't a Lady 50guy but your contributing Ladies have all been certainly supportive.

I think the fairy tale has come true for both of you...wonderfull...

BTW...go buy a lottery ticket...

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I'm really happy for you and her. It sounds like she's turning herself around (walking, losing weight, going out with friends) so it would probably help her to just be supportive of her, tell her you love her, and ask if there's anything you can do to be of help to her. (Other than giving in to her physical demands, lol!)

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My question is why now?
While yours wife lack of sex drive in her younger years was probably due to emotions and hormones - the exact same thing is happening now, but this time with a more positive side effect for you the man.... when a woman goes through menopause she looses a lot of the estrogen that controlled her so strongly and made her moody, and now she is driven more by the high levels of testosterone that created an over drive for sex in her male counter part - she has now joined the male ranks for wanting sex.

Count yourself lucky and enjoy the change...... w00t w00t.
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Default Sep 24, 2008 at 08:31 AM
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another thing that happens when a woman goes thru menopause or hysterectomy is an emotion from knowing there is no way she can get pregnant. I have heard this before where she will completely let loose like this.
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Default Sep 24, 2008 at 09:17 AM
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could there also be slight self esteem/identity issues --lost something that identifies u as 'female'
rap's point was a good one
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Default Aug 02, 2009 at 05:17 PM
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Odds are she is feeling confident with herself and is losing weight, so she is feeling beautiful and sexy again. When a woman feels sexy herself, she tends to flaunt what she has. Nothing wrong with that, ENJOY it.
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Default Aug 02, 2009 at 10:40 PM
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All I can say is, IT'S GREAT TO HAVE A POST MENOPAUSAL WIFE!!! never in my wildest dreams did I expect this. Yes, Bebop I have changed toward her. I love her even more than before. It was worth all the trials and tribulations for this time to come.

It's been 2 times in one day, today. Eat you heart out Brian, lol I'm in love with her again, she is beautiful, sexy and Hot!!!! I'm over the edge, totally gone.....crazy in love with her.

You young guys, my advice to you, just wait.......it's worth it.
hmmmmm....maybe its a hormone issue?? and i agree with a couple of the other posters when they say you probably have had a change too at least towards her now.....anyways.....goodluck

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Default Aug 03, 2009 at 05:51 AM
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Could be that she was just too dang tired earlier in life with work, kids, house work etc. Now, those things are gone, and she finally has time for HER self, and she's beginning to like herself and find out who she is and what she likes. Good for her!
And good for you too!
Enjoy and be happy that you're part of her life. Sounds like you've got a match made in heaven.

Peace!

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Default Aug 05, 2009 at 02:07 AM
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Congrats, 50guy! I might be in menopause myself (I'll find out when I see my gynecologist again later this month to get results from recent blood tests), and my sex drive has gone way down (and no, I'm not okay with it). I hope the doctor can give me something to help me, and I hope post-menopause will have me hot-to-trot, as the older people used to say.

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