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Location: california
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Nov 22, 2008 at 10:19 AM
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Right now i'm in a three-way relationship that i feel confused about. i am a submissive woman, and have a Sir who lives about 2 hours away. X is his submissive also, but she is Dominant to me. She lives about 5 miles from me. This is a complex threesome, but my guess is that any time you have three people in a relationship it has more challanges... and with one partner being at a distance this makes it even more difficult.
My Sir and X have a sexual relationship, but X doesn't want Sir and me to be sexual. We did finally discuss this last night, and Sir agrees that he will abide by X's desires in this. What was difficult for me about this is that i was writing Sir e-mails that were sexual in nature, at his command. i did tell him two days ago that i felt i shouldn't do this, because X had made it clear to me that i was not to be sexual with him, but he became stern with me about that and reminded me that he was the Dominant of our relationship and that i was to obey him, so i did. Sir is here for the weekend, so when we sat down to discuss this last night we were all at the same table. They told me that they have decided that Sir will find a "nice submissive male" to meet my sexual needs. My feelings are so mixed up about this! i love my Sir as my Master, friend, and long for him to also be my lover! i am not bi by nature, but Sir makes me be sexual with X on a regular basis. X tolerates this, but it isn't her thing. i love X as my Mistress and friend, and do not want to do anything to hurt her! Still.... i want to sleep with Sir! i get more depressed when i am locked out of the bedroom. i feel like i don't deserve to be loved. |
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Nov 22, 2008 at 08:05 PM
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Ok so let me get this straight(or not), you are the heterosexual friend of a heterosexual couple, you have been writing dirty e-mails to s and want to sleep with him. you brought up to s that you felt guilty about betraying x. he considered this. you all talked about it. x and s offered to fix you up with someone. unrequited love sucks(or not). feeling like a bad friend sucks(or not). also the next thing you do will be you not being made,but deciding to be "naughty". either by being unfaithful to s(would they watch?), competing with x(sounds fun for s), or by saying "F#@& you i dont gotta take this s#4&" and taking off(dont expect them to follow). am i somewhere in the ballpark here?
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Location: Omaha, NE
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Nov 22, 2008 at 10:16 PM
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Although I've never been in a situation like this, I'll still make a suggestion: It's one thing to be submissive, but it's another to be trod on.
You do deserve to be loved, and you deserve better than this relationship is giving you. |
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Nov 23, 2008 at 02:14 AM
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Thanks for understanding.
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Nov 28, 2008 at 06:43 PM
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I just wanted to add some (((hugs))) as I have been in a similar three way relationship myself, and I know how complicated it can be.
Always remember that just because you are submissive does not mean you do not have a voice. Any good master or "sir" will ensure you are well cared for while treating you submissively. I would ask yourself if you are happy with the current situation, deep down, and then bring it up to your Sir so that it can be discussed. How do you feel about having a submissive male to meet your sexual needs? 
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