New here

Hi, I'm Kelly. I put my introduction in the new peoples forum first but thought I would put it here too.

I figured I'd go right to the place that seems to continually surface in my research and join in. Maybe help someone if I can too. I've read some posts here pertaining to my situation.

Although it seems a bit weird to me to describe my problem here in an introduction, I will say a few words.

I am a sucessful person. I'm happily married with a daughter. All is really well in my family life mainly. I'm not depressed in any way.

At the age of 11 (possibly earlier) something happened to me. My older brother is responsible for it. Although a confrontation will never occur, it's aided in the development of my life.

I'm not an unhappy person. If I was diagnosed with something it would be simply called Transvestic Fetishism. (crossdresser basically) I'm outgoing, insanely creative, sexual, caring, a good father & husband. As most with this particular condition will attest, I'm not gay and have no intention of being so. I do not wish to be with a man, nothing of the sort. It's just not there.

My wife will probably chime in here too as she's aware that I'm here as of today... and just 2 days ago, I wrote her the letter. The letter told her of the abuse that happened to me, lead through the teenage years and ended with what I am today. The same guy she married 10 years ago. In short, I told her.

So, there it is. I'm here to talk a bit and learn if I can. I'm not looking for some cure as I'm very comfortable with myself. Maybe she'll chime in too and we, together, can move forward in this. She's accepted me.

Forward.
Kelly

Hey Kelly....just wanted to say I'm sorry for what you went through when you were younger. But it sounds like you have a good handle on things in your mind and life. Good for you for telling your wife. I am by no means an expert, but all I can suggest is being open and honest and letting her do the same about how you both feel about the past, and about the present crossdressing. If there is no issue from her side of it, I see nothing wrong with it. If she does have a problem reconciling it in her mind, maybe you guys could go to counceling together if you both felt comfortable with it so that she can learn more about it and maybe why you do it. Learn how to come to terms with it and continue on being a happily married couple. (forgive me if I misunderstood, but I am assuming she didn't know about the crossdressing before you wrote the letter)
I wish you two all the luck.

Hi Kelly...... and Welcome.

You have come to the right place to talk about and get some feed back to what is going on in your life and mind due to the abuse you suffered as an innocent child.

I look forward to talking with you and your wife as the weeks pass.

You seem to have a very healthy attitude regarding your particular fetish Kelly. Your life seems full and established.

You say your wife may chime in? Is she struggling with aspects of this?

Based upon your description it would seem that you have come to terms with the trama that moved you here and are accepting of the tangents.

I'm not quite sure how we can be of support but please let us know...our membership is lifestyle varied....we are open and affirming..and we work hard on limiting any form of judgement...

Make yourself a great day...

Lenny

Hello Everyone,

I am Kelly's wife Sandi.

Hi Sandi and welcome to PC....

What an unbelieveable adventure we were born into..

I hope we can be of support to both of you in whatever context you feel we may..

By Kellys' shared word to us all,,I would think that you both may be able to explore the depth of your commitment to each other...

Again,,welcome.

Lenny

Hi Sandi..... Glad to meet YOU -

Please know that we are here for you and Kelly - so share as much as you feel comfortable doing.

Thank you everyone for welcoming me as warmly as Kelly.