Sex/Porn Addiction

Hey folks,

Has anyone here ever had problems with sex/porn addiction? I have a lot of things I have done that I regret in my life. These things cause me a lot of pain. At times I was very compulsive with sex/porn.

On a brighter note, my spouse is very understanding and has forgiven me for these moments of bad judgement and is even partnering with me to help me stay clean from it by making sure I have accountability software on my computers and through very open communication about our feelings. She is incredible.

I have been free of behaviors like this for a while, and I never want to go back. I am carrying a lot of guilt about the past though. It is very painful and causing me to be very depressed and regretful.

I read the information on this site about sex addiction, and the talk about having a neglectful childhood or an emotionally unavailable mother. I had nothing like this in my childhood. My parents have always been amazing. They had no addictions themselves, and my relationship to this day with my parents is that they are like my best friends. So I guess I don't understand, "Why me?" Is it the fact I have OCD, and that made me be more compulsive with my behavior? Also, I have no problems with intimacy with my wife. I don't have problems with relationships. My problems basically seem to be that I was thinking with the wrong head and giving into temptation too easily.

I'd be interested to hear anyone's thoughts on this. I want to put this all behind me. I HATE this part of myself.

Peace!

I'm no expert in this area, but I think it is partly the sexualization of the media. Sex sells. And once you look at porn even once, its progressively addictive. I know of a site that addresses these issues if you are interested PM me. It's a Christian site, but it is not in the least preachy. In fact the only thing that appears to make it Christian is the name.

They have a discussion board (which I would marginally recommend. They aren't that great IMO, and they have lots of "confessions" from people struggling with porn and sex addiction, all speaking very candidly and openly.

I would seek professional help for the porn addiction honestly, its terrible or can be, as for sex addiction if you are only having sexual contact with your spouse I see nothing wrong with it, as long as she doesn't mind your sexual drive. But please get help with the porn addiction.

wow. i dont know what the whole situation your facing is. But im 20. and ive been addicted to porn since i was 10. I have destryod computers. and i was finally able to tell my dad a cupple days ago. and surprisingly, he wasnt upset. but the good thing is. i havent looked it up this year, in 2009. so i think im getting some where. Well all i can suggest is that if you know that everything is going in the right direction sexually. and you have no bad history. then you should find the main reason you do this. make a list of whats good about it and wahts bad. and who weighs out more. Look at the number one reason you look it up. And see if is realiztic. and if its not, change it. and if it is, like the other posts say. get help.

Well I am going through an online help group, and I have established a couple of accountability partners. So far so good. I really haven't even wanted to look at it.

Thanks for all of the advice!

I'm no expert in this area, but I think it is partly the sexualization of the media. Sex sells. And once you look at porn even once, its progressively addictive.

Your right your no expert in the area, hubby looks at porn and has done off and on for many years and yet he has not become progressively addicted ......

I watch porn myself but I don't think I'm an addict. It's very easy to get for free with the internet. I was very suprised to see just how easy it was. Getting addicted to it must be easy for a lot of people. Especially now that you don't have to go broke because it's free and you can stay in your home with total privacy to watch it.
It's good your wife is so understanding. I'm happy for you. I hope you'll always have the strength to stay clean.