[Brian37]

other than what you kind find on the internet does anyone have any personal experience with this area?

men or women it doenst matter

[DePressMe]

Hi Brian, I was with a guy who sometimes struggled with orgasms. We were both very open in talking about it. We found that accepting it as a part of our sex life and not letting ourselves get caught up in the notion that either of us were responsible to make it happen cut down our stress. It was also good to keep mixing things up and not getting caught in a rut of repeatedly trying to force an orgasm by doing the same thing over and over.

[FJRPC]

Originally Posted by Brian37

other than what you kind find on the internet does anyone have any personal experience with this area?

men or women it doenst matter

The Mrs and I haven't had a physical relationship in a very long time (and I'm only 40!). The last couple of times we did get together, I did my best for her, but wasn't able myself.

For me (I think) it has to do with past performance anxiety. I used to finish too early a lot. But we were younger and had more time to practice.

Now that the frequency has all but stopped, I try so hard not to "fail", that I don't succeed. Make sense? At least that's what I think.

In a way, it's kind of good that we don't, it takes one more self esteem arrow out of my heart not having to worry about it. Not ideal, but...

Good luck, and keep trying. If variety or novelty is open for discussion, I say go for it while you still can and are interested.

[Ltr2Hermione]

Originally Posted by Brian37

other than what you kind find on the internet does anyone have any personal experience with this area?

men or women it doenst matter

I'm glad someone has brought this up.. maybe the responses you get here will help me figure some things out too. My bf can't... just can't... no matter what (unless he's alone) and as non-chalant as I'm trying to be about it.. it's driving me crazy. He says it's only started in the last couple of years.

Can someone say what causes it, how to remedy it or at least how to keep from letting it drive me insane?

[Rick61701]

Keep in mind, the MIND is the number 1 sexual organ. If the mind isn't in the right place, other things may not work like they should, or they way they used too.

Rick

[FerretGuy5]

Originally Posted by Brian37

other than what you kind find on the internet does anyone have any personal experience with this area?

men or women it doenst matter

Medications cause all sorts of problems with sexual dysfunction. I get priaprisms from such drugs as Trazadone, Prazosin and Rispiradone. Not a fun thing to have treated at the hospital. At the same time, the medications delay or remove the possibility of ejaculation. A major reason some men quit taking medications.