pleasing him...is this to much?

sex stuff...

Okay, I'm sorta modest...so work with me here.

My boyfriend is bi sexual. He's had serious relationships with women and only had sexual encounters with guys. It don't bother me at all, it's the same kinda situation for me as well as far as women. I don't judge him about his sexuality and he surely doesn't judge me neither. BUT...

I have done something recently to please him that I am not sure if I feel good about. I was kinda being bothered about the gay porn on my computer, mainly because of the viruses on the pc, but also because I felt if he looked and "whatever" to that then I wouldn't get what I needed. We talked about it and came to a compromise. He agreed to stop doing it that often and I agreed to watch it with him.

Okay, I'm not trying to offend anyone here, but that doesn't float my boat. It just doesn't do anything for me in any way. I figured I'd just keep myself busy on him and he could watch whatever...if you get my drift. I didn't mind satisfying him at all, I love doing it.... but he LIKED it a little to much. Even though it was me doing the "work" he was looking at some one else. Maybe I am jealous idk.... But, I'm not sure if I liked that or not.

Just some thoughts needed... maybe another compromise? maybe try to get into it?

i totally understand. my ex wanted me to give him head while he watched porn and i refused. he said "but ill be thinking about you. its just for extra stimulation" and i said that it made me feel like i wasn't enough for him.

i dont think you should do anything you're uncomfortable with, first off. second, if youre not into it, then youre not into it. you cant force yourself to like something you don't like y'know? i think, when it comes to porn and one person having a problem with the kind or the frequency, it seems like its best to keep it a dont ask dont tell policy. that is, of course, unless it leads to other issues. but my thing is, i dont ask about it and he doesnt tell me about it. bc as long as our relationship is healthy i dont really care too much and don't really want to know. my only stipulation was that i didnt want him watching the hardcore stuff like depicting rape scenes etc... which he said disgusts him anyways. i dont know you or your boyfriend so i dont know if that would be the best course of action for you, but that seems to work for me and my boyfriend.

You have just given the decade long argument as to why many females do not like the ideal of their men viewing porn... it feels as though your man is cheating on you with their eyes & mind.

I personally went through this with my husband for ten long years and I can tell you that I too hated it as he seemed to like viewing them over being with me (this is where the problem comes in) - when one uses porn as a sexual enhancement and forgets about their significant other many aspects of the relationship in and out of the bed will suffer.

I would suggest you not do anything you are not comfortable with (physically or visually) and I would highly recommend that you communicate with your bf how you are feeling and why.

After so many years of feeling uncomfortable and angry about what my man looked at I finally moved passed the whole issue of the eyes and now I no longer let it bother me as long as I know where his heart is.

I am going through this with my husband at the moment. Since he has started taking Paxil and Klonopin for OCD, he has been having trouble reaching a climax....so he introduced porn.

Since he was having such trouble, I didn't disallow the porn, even though he knows how I've felt about it. It has gotten to a point where I feel as though I am just "there" and he is more into the porn and reaching a climax.

In the last few weeks, I have become so turned off by it, that I have actually up and walked out of the room in the middle of things because I was so disgusted...and have been unable to even get intimate with him in the last week or two because of the disgust I feel towards him and this issue.