[AzGrown69]

Hi- I am hoping that someone can help me with something that has bothered me for some time about my dreams. I very rarely have dreams that have my son in them at all - and when I do he is always under the age of 4. He is 16 yrs old now - and I think its odd that I never dream about him as he is.

[Shangrala]

Hi, and welcome to PC...

Perhaps your dream of your son at this age represent an exceptionally good period in your life. Maybe your son is a detail that doesn't necessarily represent your "son", but instead of something of great, pleasureful meaning to you.
OR, it can mean just the opposite, depending on the nature of the dream.
Maybe his age of 4 represents something which happened at that time which is nagging your subconscious?

Maybe, try to analyze what may have taken place the year your son was the age of 4. Perhaps you can tap into something which happened that you have since forgotten?

Hope that helps some~

Shangrala

[Perna]

Your dreams are all about you and what you need, not about "reality" so whatever your son at an early age "means" to you, and it doesn't have to be about your son at all, is why he is that age.

In other words, your dreams with your young son in them could be about something else that happened during that period, about the number four (a shortcut for your head, in my case, I might see clover as I use to collect 4-leaved clover or I might see my grandmother and clover as she taught me and she and I use to look for 4 leaf clover together, etc.) or it could be about your son at that age or another child at that age, etc.

Did anything happen 12 years ago (or 4 years ago)? Is "4" a significant number to you? (It's my lucky number) or are there two children in your family, and yourself and husband or did you have one sibling you feel got more/less attention from your parents, etc. Did anything happen in the day before the dream that might have triggered a dream about your son, at all? Maybe you really enjoyed your son at that age or had trouble with him then or he's having trouble now and you unconsciously think it started then, etc.

Maybe, since he's not necessarily "4" but just somewhere under that age, your dreams have to do with when you were in high school or college, 4-year institutions. He's in high school now, would make sense to me to have a dream about him at age 2, 3, 4, to get your attention in thinking about something that is related to your high school years? Maybe you did something well/ill then and are afraid for your son to do the same or he's having a problem now that you don't think you understand but if you'd remember your own time at that age, might, etc.