[BettyBoop21]

Hi all

Firstly, I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and wishing that 2012 is filled with love, prosperity, good health and plenty of good laughs.

The reason I am writing this is due to a recurring dream that I keep having. I've been suffering from this for a few years now and can't make any sense of it. Before I start, this may sound very strange and rather off the cuff but if anyone could help, I would be very grateful.

Well here goes - I keep having this recurring dream about my male cousin. I would like to say at this point that he is my step dads nephew so he is not a "blood" relative but still family none the less. I have this dream every 2 - 3 weeks and it always goes the same way. I dream that we bumped into each other, went for a drink and then I wake up the next morning beside him!!! Worrying, I know!!! I just don't understand what this means. I would never dream (excuse the pun) of any relationship with my cousin! Don't get me wrong - he's a great guy, sense of humour and a really good-looking guy but to have a relationship with him just wouldn't cross my mind in real life!!! I hardly see him from one year to the next. If I had never met him before, were not in anyway shape or form related, and we bumped into each other then I probably would be interested - being brutally honest. But he's my cousin!!!!! And I don't even feel that way about him so why do I keep having such explicit dreams. "Blood" relative or not - it just wouldn't happen!!!

I hope this doesn't make me sound like someone from the DIngle clan, as it does sound like theres a bit of incest going on. But its just these dreams. I don't understand why I keep having them so frequently and why they are so vivid. I can't stop thinking about them for a day or two afterwards. And its not because they were wonderful or that I want it to actually happen. I just find it quite unnerving.

If anyone has any ideas, then it would be greatly appreciated.

Loads of love

xxxx

[Wispiwill]

Firstly I'd like to say that I have no qualifications regarding dream interpretation nor am I saying in any shape or form that I actually know what I'm talking about - it's simply my opinion and of no more consequence than that. Feel free to ignore me (I know I do). So, with that out of the way...

Whilst in reality you are aware that there is a familial connection (however faint) with this man, your subconscious mind either doesn't know or doesn't care. It's perfectly normal for your subconscious mind to find someone attractive and/or to fantasize about a relationship with someone that your conscious mind would never consider. The fact that this is a recurring dream suggests that either you haven't accepted that you're attracted to him on some level or that you've got a healthy libido and nothing else to focus it on (for the moment).

Does any of that sound about right? I'm sorry if it's not any good or offends you in any way. It's not meant to. I just thought I'd add my thoughts to it since you asked.

[pgrundy]

When I have embarrassing dreams about other men (I'm married), I try to pay attention to what the men are like, what they represent.

For instance, lately I've been having the kind of recurring dreams you describe about very creative, free-spirited men. I have been working a lot at my low paid retail job. It's exhausting and thankless and I know my boss takes advantage, but I work more than I want out of a misplaced sense of responsibility. It's old programming, and isn't getting me what I REALLY desire--more time to write--and my dream knows this.

So my own recurring dream isn't really telling me I need to sleep with a hippie artist, it's telling me to be more assertive (male) and stand up for my creative side, quit being so subservient (female). It's telling me to join with my male energy, which for me is a creative written word type energy. (For you it might be something else.)

So when I read your dream, the first thing I wonder is what about this man stands out most in your mind? Is it that he's related? Or funny? You have to kind of decipher what he symbolizes to you.

For example, if what stands out is his relatedness, your dream might be telling you to join with that part of yourself that is caring and paternal, to 'relate' to yourself and others more supportively and positively. If his humor is what stands out, your dream might be telling you that you need to connect (relate?) to your funny, relaxed side.

And so on, and so forth.

I hope any of this helped. Please feel free to disregard any or all of it! lol!