Hi there,

I'm a person who has dreams quite often. But however it's really rare that my girlfriends appear in my dreams while I'm in a relationship. Moreover, I often have passionate sexual dreams of some other girls that I know or don't know. So it's like I cheat on her in my dreams, but I don't have control; it just happens. And they are usually girls whom I would never think of doing such things with. How would you explain this?

[medkev13]

First, in my personal opinion it isn't cheating if there isn't control over the dream.

On to the more...detailed...issue. Sex is almost never really about sex, unless it's wet...and even then it might not be. More often, it's simply about wanting connection with someone. And typically that someone is actually a part of your psyche. I'd be willing to bet these girls are exhibiting some traits that you relate to in your feminine side. i'd also be willing to put money on an animal having some role in the scene, if not directly related to the sex (no, I'm not saying you're into doing animals, just that cross gender references usually include animals regardless of the scene).

It might also be that you want more connection with your girlfriend, and you observe that there is more connection/communication with other girls you know - and none of that has to be sexual at all irl.

[Setso]

bro I'm 23 and yet to lose my virginity in my dreams
The closests I got was in 4th grade when I dreamt I was kissing my teacher, she had a blue bikini on

[medkev13]

again, dream sex almost never has anything to do with actual sex...or attraction for that matter.

I like your response, medkev. I've had similar experiences as the OP & that sounds like a perfectly sound response. We tend to keep our deepest secrets hidden from the people we care about most. And in our dreams, we act this out symbolically as having sexual experiences with other people.