[slowwaterfall]

Ok so, to preface this I need to explain my relationship to the guy I dreamt about. I met him overseas, while there for a limited time. When we started seeing each other, we both knew I had to leave in a short while. We were together for about a month before I went back home and since I've left contact has been minimal. He was the first guy I've ever really been with, so he meant (and means) a lot to me, but experience wise, he was my complete opposite. While we were together he used to tell me how he was going to miss me, and not meet anyone like me again, and how much of a problem it was I was leaving, but he seemed to become less enthusiastic as the time for me to leave came. He hasn't really reached out to me since I've been gone, and the couple of times I've tried to have made me think he probably wants to cut contact with me. I don't know if I'm being paranoid, or I've done something to upset him, or if he was never genuinely interested, or if he just doesn't see the point in maintaining contact if I'm so far away. I miss him a lot but I have no idea if the feeling is mutual, and I feel like I have no closure and am having a bit of a hard time moving on.

Anyhow, last night I dreamt that I was back in the country in which we met, but I was sitting on a couch in my grandmother's house (My grandmother lives here and not there!). I was sitting between two men I don't recognise, but seemed to know in the dream, and was sharing mints with them. I was comfortable and relaxed, and glad to be back in the country that I miss. Out of nowhere I felt two hands slide over my eyes (which is how he often greeted me) and I was immediately excited because I knew it was him. I grabbed one of his hands and spun around to say hello, and to tell him I had missed him. We talked for a little while, and he asked for a mint so I gave him one. Then he told me he had to go, but I would see him later, which I was very happy about. As he was leaving he opened the door, pointed at me and said "I love you no matter what" and then left. In waking life, that is something he would never have said, and I can't imagine him saying haha. After he had gone, I realised I still had his (disembodied) arm, but it wasn't strange or gruesome, I just remember thinking to myself that I would have to bring it back to him when I saw him later.

It was very strange! I have a little bit of an idea about what it could mean, but help would be so great!

[musicflows]

The dream is telling you what you really want from this guy. You want him to have feelings for you (what he says on leaving) and you want to keep him a part of your life no matter where he is (thus the arm).

The mints may represent something special of yourself that you share with those you are in relationship with. I'm not necessarily suggesting anything sexual, just a special part of yourself that you only share with those you care deeply about. The other two men could represent relationships you have had in the past or will have in the future.

As for resolving this in reality, it will take time before you are able to let go and move on, but you will be able to someday. If you're comfortable discussing your feelings for him in hope of trying to find out where the relationship is going, you could write him a letter or talk to him via webcam.

[Thunder Bow]

A dream of exchanging gifts. You gave him mints and he gave you his arm. This represents a process that is going on inside your self. This is a dream of self intergration.