[Crazyalex]

Hi all,

Despite the fact that I feel really stupid about this, I need to get it off my chest.

So there is this nice girl I feel attracted to for a couple of months now. There is a physical attraction for sure, but it's not only that. I like talking to her and her personality. I never really thought about asking her out because we don't really know each others and I thought it would be a bit awkward. I also didn't want anybody in my life at this moment.

Everything was fine until a few weeks ago, when I had a dream about her. A simple dream where we were together. Nothing sexual, just cute and sweet little moments. But when I awoke in the morning, I felt completely broke, like if a part of me was gone forever. The feeling is still there today, even if it all started because of a damn dream.

The only way I have to see her is to go to the store where she works (and faking the need of something if I don't need anything). I have no problem with that, but it's not the best situation. I know my only solutions are to ask her out or forget her. But for now, I'm just trying to be nice to her, help her if she needs (she works alone most of the time, in a little store) or compliment her (like with her new hair), you know, stuff like this...

So now I'm not deeply in love with her, but I do really like her and wish I could know her better to see if it could be a match.

Thanks for reading and sorry for bad English.

[Skeezyks]

Thanks for sharing your dream!

[wordshaker]

I think it's longing, or allowing yourself to long for something that is intensely essential but has been beyond your grasp.

[Thunder Bow]

This dream may about a death and a birth. Your sensitive self is now a active part of yourself. But the more self protective part of yourself is now gone forever. This may explain way you felt that way after the dream.

[kreg]

Originally Posted by Crazyalex

Hi all,

Despite the fact that I feel really stupid about this, I need to get it off my chest.

So there is this nice girl I feel attracted to for a couple of months now. There is a physical attraction

Thanks for reading and sorry for bad English.

Do this: But you have to do it without creeping her out. Try to come across like a normal decent human being she'd benefit from knowing. So go up to her and say with this intro-"I hope this don't sound too strange but..". be sure to start that way rather than just blurting your proposal out. Then say something like I've noticed you for a time now and well I was wondering and hoping that sometime we could go out for a coffee and sit and get to know each other a bit. You won't know until you ask and what harm can come. She'll likely say "oh that sounds nice and thank you for asking but I'm married or I have a steady boyfriend" Then you will be able to move on. Be sure you look nice. Don't wear jeans unless they're nice. Make sure your nails are clean and well trimmed. Make sure you smell nice or at least not badly. Always watch your behavior that you don't as they say creep her out. If you do you'll get nowhere with her.