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Poohbah
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I went through 13 years of abuse by mental health professionals. There is no available legal or board actions. I tried for several years.
I also sustained years of abuse as a child. All I hear is forgive them and move on with your life. Ok so I stated I forgive each and everyone. I still have horrible flashbacks and memories which brings it all back. I have done EMDR, meditation and mindfulness. I have done hypnotherapy etc. nothing stops above. I have sleep problems because of the things and have been sleep deprived for 10+ years. I have been to sleep disorder clinics. I am asking “step by step guide” on how to forgive people so I can at the age of 70 have a peaceful life? Any help is greatly appreciated. |
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My understanding of forgiveness is that its not linear. Painful memories, flashbacks, still pop up. Honestly though, I myself don't have a good grasp on what forgiveness actually is. Maybe consider getting a book on forgiveness. Like "Forgivness: how to make peace with your past and get on with your life" by Simon (last name). In my own experience with coping with flashbacks and bad memories that hit me out of nowhere, I am coming to accept that some things, I cannot change, and I am changed because if them. I wonder if you might need to process through some of what you've experienced, before you can forgive. Another thing, I keep hearing about how forgiveness is about letting go and that Its not about saying "it's ok." Because its not ok. Anyway, this is no step by step, but I hope I helped. |
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