[Whereto52]

Sometimes at night I think about how other people treat people in their live.
How they just dismiss them as a person with human feelings. How there is just this evil, scary truth behind most of their behavior.
I know that I am not angel or always good oralways nice.
But there is always a certain respect or aknowledgement of feelings of someone else that I would never dare to ignore.

To give an example:
There was one time in 10th or elventh grade where someone that was bullied ( I was bullied a lot too) that had lost her mother due to a stroke 2 years ago.
I remember waking to class and I overheard how one my classmates joked about her mother being dead. Everyone around him laughed. Someone even followed up on his joke.

Stuff like that happend a lot. Not just to her.
A guy I considered a friend who I even got along with great for a lot of years suddenly said this to me:
Nobody likes you. Nobody loves you.
There was more to it but this words stuck with me. It came so suddenly and hurt so much.

How can someone say such things? How do they just dismiss someoneleses feeling just like that?

I see that in alot of people around me. This almost angry, vengeful and evil part. They have a look on their face that just tells you that they despise other people or think of them to be less then they are. This cold almost threatining stare.

Though there is one part of my that just wants to be like that. It would probably easier for me to live.
No fear. No care.

[IrisBloom]

People are inherently self centered. And some either don't know or don't care about hurting others. Some of us learn empathy as a child or through painful situations. Some never do.

I know it hurts (I was bullied too) and can leave scars which may or may not heal.

Here is something very wise someone told me long ago: "When people are rude, angry, bullying etc, it's ALL about them and not you." They treat everyone the same. It's their mind set and has nothing to do with you personally.

Something I do when someone looks down on me or makes me feel less is smile and tell myself that it's their opinion an not true at all.

I think it helps to realize bullies' actions are from inside them and most probably have wounds or self esteem issues.

:HUG:

[TunedOut]

I am sorry to hear that you were bullied. IMO, when people do things like this, they are letting darkness control them; another sign can be when a lot of accusations and judgements are thrown around. It tears people down instead of building them up. Darkness wants to divide our communities and families. Love usually unifies. It is the opposite of darkness. However, IMO when darkness goes over the line, that is when we need our justice systems, due processes and such (moderators too? ) to work well in order to stop al the damage evil causes.

[AzulOscuro]

Unluckily, there were and are people who display these kinds of behaviours.
I feel as if there were two forces, each one going on opposite directions.
On one side, we can’t deny that today we are more civilised than in the past, we face our disagreements through dialogue, laws, etc.
But, on another side, as we are more aware of how everyone is equal, unique and worthy, the cases in which there are still people who don’t respect these principles and hurt others in different senses create a feeling of hopeless and constitute a shock.

We have still a lot to progress and, in my opinion, the effort to study these cases, their causes, implications, the concurrences with our current societies, etc are very important to put the bases to solve these problems.

I’m very sorry your friend was bullied and of course, you, who also were bullied.
It’s already a terrible fact for a normal person, much more when the bullied person is already socially withdraw or have struggles with it.

[Fuzzybear]

Unfortunately, there were, and still are - people who display those behaviours.

I'm sorry to hear that you were bullied.

Good posts above

[AliceKate]

Pretty sure I said a lot of hurtful things to a lot of people when I was younger. It was me telling them is substitution of telling myself. I hate people. Not all the time, not every day, but to a part, today, too. I feel nothing about myself. No grandiour, no glory, no hate, just indifference. What can I say... sorry this happened to you. Might've been more about your friend than you.