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Default Aug 11, 2022 at 01:45 PM
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Well…here I go!
Hope English translator doesn’t make me look too bad. lol!

I have done a summary out of the summary and still I needed to make another but I got tired.

Beforehand, I need to give you a warning. I sound when writing or speaking as if I were an expert, as if I owned the truth. That happens when I’m very convinced of something. So, take this into account because I’m gonna give that impression when this, it’s only my own experience. Thus, that way I save myself repeating “in my opinion” “as I think” So on and so forth.

There are two main pillars in an improvement.

Firstly, the outside support. When you are a 12-y-o girl questioning on your journal what you are doing here, something is wrong. Someone has to help you.
In my case, I’ve been having lot of support: Family, including my precious doggies, doggies in general, psychologists, psychiatries and a especial mention to a person I met online many years ago who, I don’t know how, but has a especial ability to know which word to tell you, which piece of advice to give you and all this at the right moments. The joke between us is that this person has an X-ray glasses but I think there’s no glasses but the NASA spy satellite.
That’s it at this point. It seems as if I were giving a speech after receiving an Oscar.

Secondly, but not less relevant. Which could it be? It’s easy, isn’t it. Inner support.
Your attitude. Not only to work but also to be open to listen, to learn.

To follow up, I’m gonna mention briefly the steps I’ve given and still I give. Adding why it’s become so useful for me.

1)Progressive Social Therapy Exposure: You never finish with this tool. It’s a life time work. You have to get out of your comfort zone. Just like a kid learn to walk, by walking.

Obviously, beginning with the easier step which is the one that implies the lower level of anxiety.
Again, like a kid. Crawling, then walking, running, jumping and so on.

2)Self-knowledge: I write on a journal whenever I need it. The poor is full of sad entries. I live the happy moments to the fullest, the bad ones are spilt on my dear journal. Many times it’s better to write than act or react.
From time to time, I go back to what I wrote and it lets me understand how my mind works, especially under pressure. I can see the patterns, question the thoughts I had.
The idea to read again with the distance of time and under other circumstances gives you the chance to see from another, more objetive perspective, sort of a scientific analysis.
Only knowledge can give you the possibility to sort things out.

3)Practise of Mindfulness:
I can’t stress enough how much mindfulness helps me to even connect and take the most out of the other tools or techniques.

Mindfulness, as you know, is simplifying it, living the present moment, staying focused on whatever activity you are doing along the day.

The main problem with anxiety is that it demands from you a big amount of energy. With depression, you are already run out of energy. You’re simply are empty.
Here is when Mindfulness plays an important role to compartmentalise.
Whereas there are activities that spark your anxiety, there are others than can make you recover part of this energy and give you a break from anxiety beside beginning the practise of mindfulness. These are activities that require low or zero anxiety.
So, the best activities to begin with the practise of staying focused are the ones that you enjoy the most.
Like a kid when is playing with his/her friends. The past, the future don’t exist for a kid when playing. All what matters is the game.

Following the principles of mindfulness, you are going to get other advantages:
- First, you won’t feel bad if you mind for moments brings you up whichever thought outside from the activity and that is a worry for you, because as soon as you realise your mind gets distracted from the activity, you are gonna back to focus on it. This gonna let you disengage from these thoughts that have no reason to appear now. Because you know this is how the brain works, it’s always working. I accept this fact but I come back to what I was doing.
- You will feel the satisfaction of having done something you enjoy, something productive and it will give you relax and plenitude. For example, a repaired and deep sleep (…) without the presence of this anxiety, worries or whatever negative that apart you from the goal.
- You will gain self-confidence. F.e.; If I’m doing a craft, I’m gonna find problems along the process, so I will have the opportunity to put into practise my creativity to solve these hurdles.
And no need to mention that practice will make you master the technique.

- Distractions and mistakes don’t mind. They are gonna give you knowledge about how the mind works as to what it comes to the former (distractions) and in regards to mistakes, they are gonna give you practice and learning. Judgement, especially, self-judgement doesn’t exist in Mindfulness.
- You will grow good habits because you are practising self-care. You are take the most of your time, your attention to enjoy and accomplish a task. And you will want to do it again.

4)Setting goals and the steps to achieve them for each one of the aspects of your life you need to change or improve: Family and friends, Work, romantic relationship, self-care, leisure, learning, etc.
I wrote them down on a notebook and even used pictures.
It’s like that.
A big objetive > medium/short time goals > daily or weekly steps.

5)Finally, I read lots of self-help books and articles about Psychology.
Articles, books, audios and lectures may help you know a little more about what it’s been found in Psychology so far. Sometimes, an idea, a piece of advice, something new could make you live the Aha! moment.

To sum it up. All these tools drive you to accept yourself, feel stronger and more in control of your life.

As a conclusion, say that people get happy when they develop as much as they can, their potentials.

I’m open to any question to clarify what you need folks, if I know, of course. I’m master of nothing.

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Default Aug 11, 2022 at 02:55 PM
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Nice! This is great. I really benefited from this. I like how you organized it into steps. And each step seems very important to developing good habits/happiness.

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Default Aug 11, 2022 at 03:11 PM
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Thank you a lot. I did it for people like you. People who struggles with my same issues and may benefit with it.

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