[aries93]

i feel so ugly

i just know im the most attractive person out there. and i just feel like im not good enough to go outside. i know this is very self-pitying but its all that i ever think. i honestly feel that if i looked okay i wouldnt have any problems in life, because i would just be confident in myself

can anyone else relate to what im talking about?

[Puffyprue]

Yes i can,i know how it feels i always feel im the ugliest person on earth ..ugly and weird and feel like iam an alien..since i was kids people always compare me to my others sister and causin make me have no self esteem sometimes i even avoiding go out coz i feel so ugly and weird but i've been learning that it doesnt matter how ulooks like what matter are ur behaviour..well it still hard to think that way sometimes lol..i believ u have a good heart and that makes u more beautiful..and imo just became a women u already beautiful coz all women are beautiful..

[Seabirdanne]

I doubt that you are ugly. But even if you are, what's the worst that could happen? Do you think you won't get married because of it? I see many women who aren't exactly Jennifer Anniston, and they're happily married. Do you think you won't get a good job? Again, I've worked with many people who weren't exactly model material (myself included). Do you think no one will like you? Surely you like people who aren't conventionally beautiful, so why do you think no one would like you?

The rain falls and the sun shines on the good and the bad, the tall and the short, the fools and the wise, the ugly and the beautiful. There is no reward or punishment for being one way or another other than what we do to ourselves. Beautiful or ugly, you deserve happiness and a good life, and I hope you find it.

[VickiesPath]

When I was 14, I used to think that it hurt people when they looked at me because I was so ugly. I used to walk around with my head looking down at the ground so they could not see my face.

I did that until one day when I was crossing the street and stepped up on the curb and walked right into a traffic control box mounted on a light pole. It hurt like hell! I quickly looked around to see who saw me do that. I thought, how stupid can you be, Vickie. I started watching where I went.

As I grew older, I realized that it was my parents that had made me feel like I was ugly. They made me feel that way because they were alcoholics and my sister was "cute" but I wasn't. They kept telling me what was wrong with me, in their eyes.

I learned that they were the ones with the problem. If you look on my profile, you will see that there never was a problem with the way I look. I am 56 years old today.

I doubt if you are ugly. It is probably just a lie. In fact, it is probably a really, really bad lie. You are probably beautiful.

[aries93]

vickie, i actually looked on ur profile before i even saw your reply and i said o my god she's so pretty, id love to look that great when im older!! so shocked you ever felt that way. thanks for the advice

[billieJ]

What people think about you has nothing to do with anything about you. It has everything to do with the way you make them feel about themselves. People we look up to can make us feel ugly by comparing us to others. Or we can do it ourselves by comparing ourselves to others. Adults who compare children to other children are wrong and can do a lot of unnecessary damage. And we cannot compare ourselves to others, because, in truth, we do not know what we look like to others. Our perceptions are distorted by self-esteem issues. Caring about You all, and often feeling ugly myself ~ billieJ

[sun_flower]

Originally Posted by aries93

i feel so ugly

i just know im the most attractive person out there. and i just feel like im not good enough to go outside. i know this is very self-pitying but its all that i ever think. i honestly feel that if i looked okay i wouldnt have any problems in life, because i would just be confident in myself

can anyone else relate to what im talking about?

I can. I was bullied at work and told how ugly I was often, and I believed it. Even if I don't want to believe it, it's engrained in my brain and I believe it.

You are not ugly. I am not ugly, now if we could just get our brains to listen to us.

[PoetKenshin]

i totally relate... i still can't grasp it when people say stuff like "hey handsome" and all cause i don't see it anywhere that's handsome on me. you're not alone, and you got us always.

You *can't* be the world's ugliest person as long as I exist.

[feary]

Originally Posted by aries93

i honestly feel that if i looked okay i wouldnt have any problems in life, because i would just be confident in myself

That is not true. I feel like I look ok and beautiful to some but I have no confidence and I have lots of problems

I also think, if i had this or that, if I was like this or that, then everything would be fine.

the truth really is we have to feel good about ourselves, love ourselves no matter what, take care of ourselves and only then will our problems be bearable.

unfortunately, because it is so hard to do

[FNGal]

I can relate sometimes. I have my good days looking in the mirror and liking what I see-but more recently, my age is bothering me-and I am not 19 anymore. It gets harder to look in the mirror the older I get.
I have to say-some of the most beautiful people I have ever met, unfortunately will never grace the pages of Vogue or Cosmo-but their inner beauty shines so bright, I just want to be around them.
I bet you dont see what others do and that you are beautiful-inside and out!

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I relate to feeling ugly.

B.

[Ebpm]

I constantly worry about how I look. Even when I go to the BATHROOM, I'm afraid of what I look like to my own parents.

Having a Jewish star necklace doesn't help either. I get so many LOOKS from people. But then, someone will say, "Oh, I thought you were in High School! You're so pretty!"
I think of all the sarcastic thoughts in their heads...it's horrible. I just want it to stop.

[rohshall]

I think many of us have been brought up by parents who cared a lot of about how we are appearing to other people and whether we look pretty than whether we are happy or whether we are building the character/skills for life. So, we have internalized this attitude also. I think if we reflect upon how we were treated by our parents (in my case, they were ashamed of me) when we didn't put a good "performance" before people, we will start beginning to hate this superficiality and hypocrisy in them.