[OneRiffTooMany]

im 31 and have a long history of mental health related issues. thruth is i feel like the guinee pig in my family as i was forced to sought treatment in my late teens, but all of the other members of my family have mh issues, i sometimes think they use me a scapegoat so they can avoid looking at themselves.
anyway im sick of my sister bullying me around, it sounds weird cos im a bloke twice her size and 3 years older, i kind of let her get away with it in my twenties i just wasnt confident to just say go away stay away. ive been married for three years and am a father now and she still manages to put her nose in to my life and smash my confidence. i have been taken off tranqilizers and quit canibis use so my wits are about me more. but i keep letting my guard down like at christmas and stuff. i fear if another episode occurs i will tell her where to go and not allow any contact with my family, this will obviously not go down with the rest of my family well at all.
sometimes i feel that her taunting has damaged my ability to deal with situations outside family life ie work friends
Help

[(JD)]

You may be right about her treatment of you still having it's effects, but the good news is that you can begin to counter that==especially that you now recognize how much it may have affected you!

We all tend to believe what family tells us as we grow up, and often they have picked a scape goat to cover up their own shortcomings.

[OneRiffTooMany]

It sometimes takes someone elses insight to see a situation in a simpler form.
thankyou thankyou for your response

[DivorcedWoman]

I also have a bossy sister. I'm the youngest of three children. My brother is 8 years older than me and my sister is 5 years older. If I tried to participate in a family conversation my siblings typically told me to be quite and that I didn't know what I was talking about. So, my self-esteem was low and I was pretty much silent during these conversations.

My sister and I grew closer as we got older and she went away to college, but she never has truly been the warm and fuzzy type. I'm very sensitive and emotional. We have spent a lot of time together over the years but when I had a manic episode I sent her some hurtful emails which of course I don't remember but she is still holding it against me and that was over 4 years ago.

She chose to form an even stronger friendship with my ex husband because of my actions which is really hurtful. I've thought about cutting all contact with her but my mom keeps saying she is your sister and when I'm gone who will you have left. I agree at some level with my mom, but it's not like we really have a relationship now. I would never tell her initimate secrets about my life or tell her about my therapy etc. for fear she would just turn around and tell my ex. I don't trust her at all and if I do have another episode I'm not sure if she would be there to support me anyway so for now we have this bs superficial relationship.

So that's where we are for now. She is very bossy, judgemental, etc.