[nice girl]

Snapshot Report
Sense of Self-Worth
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Your results indicate that you seem to have a fairly low opinion of yourself. You often put yourself down a lot, falling victim to your own self-depreciating statements. Essentially, you are suffering from a lack of self-worth, an issue that many people encounter at some point in their lives. A weakened sense of self-worth can result from a wide range of factors: perhaps you've recently gone through a particularly difficult period in your life, or you didn't get the support you needed from others when you were growing up. The important thing however, is not to figure out who/what is to blame; it is to recognize that it's now up to you to boost your self-image. There are certain attitudes and beliefs that have been found to contribute to and "feed" a negative self-image and you appear to have quite a few of them. Examples would be believing that you don't deserve to be loved or respected, believing that you're not good enough for someone, and focusing only on your perceived faults rather than good qualities. While you may not necessarily feel all of these things all of the time, they are pretty ingrained in your mindset to the point that they are surely affecting your life. You may not even realize it, but these beliefs can discourage you from pursuing your goals, cause you unnecessary stress, and even become self-fulfilling prophecies. A change in mindset could make all the difference in the world.

Hello, nice girl.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/1752

[nice girl]

Hey Byzantine..

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/1752

>>> self-acceptance also involves being willing to recognize, retrieve and make peace with parts of the self that till now may have been abandoned, shunned, or repudiated. I'm referring here to our illicit or anti-social impulses--our shadow self, which, though it may have confused, frightened, or even sabotaged us in the past, still represents an essential part of our nature and must be fully integrated if we are to become whole. As long as we refuse to accept-or in some way accommodate-these split-off aspects of self, unconditional self-acceptance will remain forever out of reach.
Byz, with affection, I have to disagree with this article.
Certainly, there are often things about others one does not like, can't (and often, shouldn't) accept; but there is nothing about oneself that is to be unlikeable, unacceptable.
to this author I would say, this is patently bogus.