[grey_aj]

Hi guys, first time posting in this forum, so I'm not sure if this is the right place for this..

So something that I realized I have a problem with is second-guessing. I am always second-guessing myself. I am always doubting whether my friends truly like me or are just too nice to turn me down. I don't think I'm socially awkward. Sometimes I just feel like I can be very socially stupid.

I think the second-guessing has to do with constantly hearing conflicting opinions about myself. On the one hand, a lot of my friends/ classmates think that I am always on top of things, have 100000 accomplishments under my belt, and some of them think that I am wonderfully smart and that I am going to get into a top university. I'm sure that a lot of these people also see me as a stickler for the rules and a super nerdy girl with no life.

On the other hand, my parents are always dumbing me down and are always underestimating me. They think I'm too stupid to get into a decent college, and they like reminding me of this point too. They try to minimize my goals and dreams because they think that they're too big for someone like me. They think I'm not motivated at all when I am. And always going back and forth between school and parents has made me unsure about what *I* think of myself. Hence the second-guessing. I don't know what to think of myself anymore.

If you've made it here, thanks for listening.

- AJ

[Travelinglady]

Frankly, I suggest you listen more to the other folks. I never have understood parents who are so critical of their kids. Actually, I think it might help you to meet with your school counselor, who could give you a more objective view of your capabilities.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

Frankly, I suggest you listen more to the other folks. I never have understood parents who are so critical of their kids. Actually, I think it might help you to meet with your school counselor, who could give you a more objective view of your capabilities.

I totally agree with Payne.

Also, what are your objective parameters (test scores etc.)?

[grey_aj]

What exactly do you mean by "objective parameters"?

My school is really big, and the counselors don't really have that much time for each person and kind of run like a large corporation. Thanks for the suggestion though...

I am really really confused about my capabilities. I am really flattered by everyone other than my parents. Sometimes I feel like they are running my life because they think that I can't do it. Either this is their twisted way of preparing me if I fail one day or something, I have no idea. I honestly don't know who to believe (obviously I should believe what *I* think, but I don't know what that is).

- AJ

[hamster-bamster]

I was asking about standardized test scores. You should believe those people, the ones who flattter you. They are in the majority.