[lilithmoon]

Im thinking that insecurity in general...mine included has a lot to do with feelings we had as children from times we were rejected and our brains are set to be afraid of certain situations we are in that may have been similar to our first experiences with rejection. I dont believe babies are born with insecurities...I feel itis something manifest ed from our environment. I find one thing that helps me is to realize that sometimes us humans are way too selfish and caught up in ourselves when for all we know the person you envy is feeling the same way,or worse . So focus on the other person and forget about your own insecurities for a minute and see if that helps!fake it til you make it really does work! What you tell yourself you are programming your subconscious to believe. Just like the childhood rejections.

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[blind horizon]

I can't remember when I became so much insecure. My parents were never appreciating to me and always used to compare me with other kids in a negative way, that might be one of the reasons for who I am today. And I just can't overcome my insecurity. Fear of rejection seems like a killer and I always withdraw myself. And always feel ashamed of myself for the withdraw.

[Webgoji]

Originally Posted by blind horizon

I can't remember when I became so much insecure. My parents were never appreciating to me and always used to compare me with other kids in a negative way, that might be one of the reasons for who I am today. And I just can't overcome my insecurity. Fear of rejection seems like a killer and I always withdraw myself. And always feel ashamed of myself for the withdraw.

That seems like a common thread. I'll bet you're 10X the person you believe yourself to be.

For what it's worth, I can put my finger on almost the exact instant my self-esteem went down hill.

[StrongerMan]

If one truly wants to be selfless, then they already are selfless... They just have trouble communicating and acting upon it due to the insecurities etc... So I agree, we can find great refuge in exploring our own empathy. Some people are incapable of it.