No Self Esteem for me is warranted

I have not low, but NO self esteem!

I am male, far too slender....(wrists so small I cannot wear the bracelets which i love) if I did they would slide up near my elbow

My hair is thin

Yet, EVERY guy i see has "it all"!!!

So...my imperfections are not "perceived" ones, but true ones.

Hi, LifeisCruel! True, we can compare ourselves to others and objectively see that we are lacking in some departments. But we are more than just our looks. I know a lot of men who are successful in many ways, even though they aren't Adonises. Maybe you are spending too much time in places which attract such great-looking guys. I see guys who vary a great deal in appearance.

Besides, great looks tend to diminish over time, anyway.

Hi (again!! ) LifeIsCruel,
From the way you're feeling perhaps it feels like EVERY guy you're seeing "has it all", but believe me (!!) from where I'm at NOT every guy "has it all".
Even the one's with "hair", even the ones with muscles, even the "conventionally" attractive ones.........even............none of those things come close to my view of "having it all". Having "it all" runs much deeper than that.
And if your insecurities right now start at/focus on your appearance, well (and I might have said this before ) nothing wrong with slender.........nothing wrong with not wearing bracelets.............nothing wrong with thinning hair.
Now appearances "out the window" (!! ) the "having it all" bit is way more inside of you, inside who you are.
So don't let your focus on others keep that "locked up"/away from people, you may well have more in you than a lot of the people you're looking at. Just try to let it out, see your true value, see your true positives (the positives that really matter!!).
I'm not going to do the "love yourself" bit, as I know that's probably hard for you to grasp (hard for a lot of people to grasp, regardless!!) but just try to allow people to see inside and value/love you for who you are, and try to accept (even if you don't quite get it) that those qualities in you are something that other people can value and love in you.
And believe me, I'm sure there are some of those qualities in you!!!
Alison