I daydream too much

One of my problems in coping with life is that I daydream too much, so I tend to miss important things, and I get yelled at for not paying attention.

The thing is, I don't want to stop daydreaming. I like daydreaming because I can't stand having to be big-stupid-failure me every second of the day. I like imagining that I can be someone else who is more capable and worthy.

I guess daydreaming is kind of a drug for me, except without the doing drug part. I want to escape the consequences of my stupid, self-serving, and irresponsible behavior. I know I shouldn't do it. I know I should live with the consequences and accept all the bad things about myself like a good loser.

I just can't stand the idea of being trapped in this loser body all the time. It feels like a punishment that I deserve for not trying harder to improve myself. But I don't want to be this person anymore and because I'm so lazy and inept, this seems like the only way I can be likable and worthy of respect.

I don't know how to help you, but the least I can say is that you're not alone. At all.
Daydreaming became a problem to me when I realize I rather daydream than actually live my life.

The thing is, you feel invicible when you daydream. You can become whoever you'd want to be. I daydream a lot about '' what would have happened if... ''. I don't know if you ever think about such things, but I think a lot about mistakes I made. People I rejected that I should not. Things I made that I regret, things I didn't made that I regret not doing. I invent myself a new life, a better one.

You have to ''force'' yourself to focus, even if you're bored and sad. Even if you're feeling a bit depressed, even if you hate yourself and you want to cry. Take one day at the time. I personnaly started writing, it's a creative way to express what my daydreams we're expressing. It's a time where I let myself daydream, so I tend to do it less when i'm with other people.

It's easier to daydream than to go out and change, i'm still not here yet. You already figured out why you're doing it, which is a good start.

Daydreaming is non-sustainable. I had to have 30 years of therapy to fix mine, not getting my act together until I was in my 50's.