[Caveman]

Hello. I'm Oliver and I'm 18 years old. 5'6 / 170 cm even.

My height effects me very much. I am a big guy living in a small body. I can't be me and be this short, I'm living in a world of giants. How do you think it makes me feel when I know that a woman who is taller than me could push me over? Bully me. It happned in ground school I was the shortest guy among 250 students. People didn't see me as a threat but as an easy target. I was suffering from The Napoleon Complex, acting big but I was small and that gave the bigger people the tendency to pick on me.

I remember not to long ago I was trying to reach a magazine on the wall while waiting at the hospital, and this taller Woman comes behind me and grabs it for me. That was a breaking point for me. I don't think she realised that she was actually being a douche by helping me. I said thank you and sat down, but it wasn't really fine. It ain't fair.

It's a hell to be short, you have no idea how much confidence and pride I lose from just walking down a street or hanging around other people.

I'm prepared to go at great lenghts to get taller. If it so means that they will have to

Possible trigger:

crush both my legs

so I can grow 3 inches taller and probably risk having pain in my legs for the rest of my life. I can't go on with my life being short. You tall people are blessed, you are so lucky. I want to be a Cop, Soldier, Agent or a Detective, that is my dream, but my body prevents me.

It's not just me either, any short guy feels the same way as I do. They just don't addmit to it, because it's embarresing to be short, so we convince ourselves that we are big and tough and all is fine. And guys don't start writing all the negatives about being tall. The posetives heavily outwheighs the negatives. Besides there is a sweetspot in lenght, 180cm would be a dream come true and it would solve so much for me. Only if you are really tall you encounter those few negatives.

Does anyone know any treatments? I'll do anything.

[healingme4me]

Not certain I'm familiar with any treatments. Acceptance of self is a difficult esteem topic to overcome.

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[freaka]

hi caveman. it could also be that a taller woman could actually love you, instead of push you over. my husband is also 5'6 and i am 5'10.

Hey caveman, I replied to your other thread but you didn't reply to my post so I have no idea if what I said helped or not. As you have reposted I'll expand on my original reply, take what you want from it.

Social pressures of body ideals are tough on both men and women. We are bombarded with images of this ideal through various media. Most of us do not measure up to this ideal, in one way or another.

You are acutely aware of your height at the moment and believe your life would be better if you were taller, you seem to be investigating ways to increase height, you seem to have an option which may work but carries a risk of prolonged pain. That is absolutely your decision to make.

You also have an option of self acceptance. The emphasis here is on the word 'self' because believe me very few people would judge you as harshly as you are judging yourself.

You are posting this in the self-esteem forum, most of us here have issues around self acceptance. This is a good place to read up on others experiences and gain insight into what might help or not if you do decide to work on self acceptance.

Best of luck to you whatever path you choose.