[Sassandclass]

This narc even has some family turned against me and I have done nothing!!
The narc is systematically pulling all my friends and support from me. What do I do???

[Sunflower123]

It depends on how and why they are doing it. Can you give more specifics?

[Sassandclass]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

It depends on how and why they are doing it. Can you give more specifics?

This person goes through people every 1-2 years. Narc chooses a couple, monopolizes them, "owns" them, separates them from the group of other friends. Narc idolizes them, loves them to the extreme. They can do no wrong in her eyes. Narc has chosen my bro and sis in law as the next target. Then, when Narc's done with them they are dead to her. They're "horrible" people. And she will cut them to the ground. Se'll spread false rumours about them. Because it's not enough that she doesn't like them, Narc has to make everyone not like them. So Narc has them ostracized by the group with narcs manipulation. But this Narc is soooo charming that people believe them. My bro and sis in law are not super supportive people of me to begin with (they are very emotionally unavailable and unsupportive of me and the rest of the family) so they were easy targets I guess.
Narc told people that I flirted with their significant other (nope!!!! If anything the SO was flirty with me!) and Narc also said I was a "friend stealer" (mainly because me and this other person got close and the narc has a weird obsession with this other person - but I didn't steal anyone!) I don't speak badly of ppl even when they deserve it, so I've been remaining silent. Trying to take the higher road. But some days... it just kills me.

[TishaBuv]

If you feel like you did nothing wrong, just keep on being yourself. It sounds like you have a toxic relationship with this person you call 'narc', are you sure you want them in your life?

[wolfgaze]

The only way to win is not to play the game... I know I know - so much easier said than done! But if you continue to feed conscious and emotional energy into whatever this person is creating - then you won't be able to free yourself from the negativity & turmoil... You have to push yourself to connect with something above & higher than this current 'human drama' and 'earthly shenanigans' - and this will enable you to prevent yourself from being sucked in and dragged down by it. You very well may discover that once you successfully achieve this - the external circumstances which initially influenced you to move in this new direction, will dissolve or have greatly changed... The 'human experience' places us in challenging situations that initially make us feel 'trapped' and like victims of uncontrollable circumstances. It's only once you successfully navigate your way through such circumstances and subsequently transform (evolve) your state of consciousness as a result that you then realize the higher purpose behind it all and find acceptance & understanding (upon which you can finally feel at peace within yourself).

[wolfgaze]

For your own peace of mind - you can identify the individuals in your life who's presence and feelings are truly important to you - and you can approach them with some prepared and planned out communication simply relaying that you've become aware that some falsehoods are being spread about you and that they can always and should consult with you if they care about getting to the truth of the matter (as it pertains to you). If you do this you keep the door open for honest & accurate communication and you will have some peace of mind knowing that you've brought this 'issue' to the attention of certain individuals and after extending the option for them to always reach out to you - the ball is now in their court and you've done all you can do on your end. Wash your hands and shift your focus to more important matters...