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Default Sep 05, 2017 at 11:29 AM
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Awesome thread Starry, I needed to read this today.

How were you compassionate with yourself today? I wasn't really until I read this.

What can you be gentler on yourself with? My expectations of myself in my volunteer role which I returned to after the summer break today.

What are your strengths? I have a lot of patience with others.

Why are you awesome? I try my best at everything I do.

How were you kind to yourself today? I am being kind to myself now by coming on PC and engaging with this thread.

How did you love yourself today? By resting when I needed it.

How can you make things easier for yourself today? By switching off from the challenges of today and finding a good movie to watch tonight.

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Default Sep 05, 2017 at 10:56 PM
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Awesome thread Starry, I needed to read this today.

How were you compassionate with yourself today? I wasn't really until I read this.

What can you be gentler on yourself with? My expectations of myself in my volunteer role which I returned to after the summer break today.

What are your strengths? I have a lot of patience with others.

Why are you awesome? I try my best at everything I do.

How were you kind to yourself today? I am being kind to myself now by coming on PC and engaging with this thread.

How did you love yourself today? By resting when I needed it.

How can you make things easier for yourself today? By switching off from the challenges of today and finding a good movie to watch tonight.

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Default Sep 07, 2017 at 12:18 AM
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Was I compassionate with myself today? Not really. I was fairly critical. It wasn't a terrible day, but I keep following this thread of negative talk every day, lately. I keep thinking about the idea of reasonable expectations, and how easy it is to unconsciously stray from them into unreasonable territory.

I go to bed feeling like I can make tomorrow wonderful, but when i can't follow through the next day, I'm frustrated. Maybe I need to dial it down, and expect an "adequate" day.

Thank you, starrysky.
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Default Sep 20, 2017 at 02:33 AM
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I was paid two very sweet, very heartfelt compliments today. I wanted to refute them, but I kept quiet. Why must we be so unkind to ourselves? Why is my knee-jerk reaction to someone telling me I'm a good person, "No, you're wrong"? Why is it so hard to believe that it might be true?

I tell people they are good in spite of their faults all the time, and I believe every word I say. I need to somehow start believing it about my self...
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Default Nov 23, 2017 at 10:54 AM
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone, to those who celebrate, and those who do not. Wherever you are, wherever you go today, I hope you go easy on yourself. I hope you have a good day.
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Default Nov 23, 2017 at 10:59 AM
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I was paid two very sweet, very heartfelt compliments today. I wanted to refute them, but I kept quiet. Why must we be so unkind to ourselves? Why is my knee-jerk reaction to someone telling me I'm a good person, "No, you're wrong"? Why is it so hard to believe that it might be true?

I tell people they are good in spite of their faults all the time, and I believe every word I say. I need to somehow start believing it about my self...
Bjornen, I don't think I saw this post before. It's been a while since I've been to my own thread! You're the best Bjorny. I hope you don't mind me saying here, that I'm glad you're doing better and well now (and even if you're not, doesn't change how much I like ya!). Rock on Brother Bjorn.
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Default Nov 24, 2017 at 12:59 AM
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Hey! It's this thread! Funny to go back in time to an era before I knew ya.
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Default Nov 27, 2017 at 07:08 AM
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I’m trying really hard to understand that conflict in relationships happens. That’s life. It doesn’t necessarily follow that there is a terrible flaw(s) in my personality or that there is something wrong with my communication style or for that matter that all conflict is somehow my fault. I’m working on being more compassionate there.
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Default Nov 27, 2017 at 05:07 PM
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Hey! It's this thread! Funny to go back in time to an era before I knew ya.
It's the self compassion thread, broham!
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Default Nov 27, 2017 at 05:11 PM
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I’m trying really hard to understand that conflict in relationships happens. That’s life. It doesn’t necessarily follow that there is a terrible flaw(s) in my personality or that there is something wrong with my communication style or for that matter that all conflict is somehow my fault. I’m working on being more compassionate there.
I really like that you had this realization, Jennifer. Conflict in relationships does happen, and I have forgotten this sometimes, too.

I myself am learning that I have specific needs and feelings that are different from others, sometimes. And it doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. Or you. Or anyone who may feel a certain way in a friendship or relationship.

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Default Nov 27, 2017 at 05:26 PM
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How were you compassionate with yourself today?
I really feel like I haven't been compassionate with myself today. Realizing this, though, makes me want to be.

What can you be gentler on yourself with? I can think of some things I'm not ready to put into an open forum. I'll keep them to myself. that's ok

What are your strengths? Someone once told me I'm a bright spot and have a silly streak.

Why are you awesome? Today, I have no idea. But curling up under a blanket and knitting while listening to music sounds like a really good idea. And then journaling my heart out.

How were you kind to yourself today? I think I'm being kind to myself by taking the time to focus on this.

How did you love yourself today? I erased what I wrote in this answer. But it felt good to write it. I am doing what I need to do. To protect and be kind to myself.

How can you make things easier for yourself today? Knitting + warm blanket + music + journaling =

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Default Nov 29, 2017 at 12:26 PM
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I was compassionate with myself today during a trip to town. It's Christmas shopping season and I can't think of a single thing to buy anyone. It might be tempting to be impatient with myself but I have resisted the urge.

I think not wanting to buy yet more stuff for people who don't really need it is sensible. I will particpate in the gift buying but will aim to keep low key and useful in my choices. Go me!!
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Default Nov 29, 2017 at 10:18 PM
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I was compassionate with myself today during a trip to town. It's Christmas shopping season and I can't think of a single thing to buy anyone. It might be tempting to be impatient with myself but I have resisted the urge.

I think not wanting to buy yet more stuff for people who don't really need it is sensible. I will particpate in the gift buying but will aim to keep low key and useful in my choices. Go me!!
Good for you, Prefab. Go you! Sometimes I just go with small gift certificates and cards. I'm pretty poor this year so a lot of people will be getting cards.
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Default Nov 30, 2017 at 10:13 AM
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I think a heartfelt card is wonderful Starry, also small homemade gifts I like best of all. I'm done with the consumerist aspect of the season.
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Default Nov 30, 2017 at 10:17 AM
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I was compassionate with myself after being spoken to aggressively by an angry customer. It was horrible and I really just wanted to cry but I told myself I had handled the situation as well as I could and got on with my job. This was a big win for me as a sensitive person I tend to take these things personally but today I overrode that.
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I was compassionate with myself after being spoken to aggressively by an angry customer. It was horrible and I really just wanted to cry but I told myself I had handled the situation as well as I could and got on with my job. This was a big win for me as a sensitive person I tend to take these things personally but today I overrode that.
(((((Prefab))))) When I read that, I got into protective mode of you. I'm glad that you were able to recognize those things! At the same time, I want to say I'm sorry that that customer made you feel badly. They are probably going through something awful themselves. It's not an excuse for them though. I'm so glad you were able to let it go. Prefab for the win.
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I can't do any of this
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The self affirmation stuff - it just isn't me
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