I will try to post here daily. Feel free to join in.

Some things to ponder:

How were you compassionate with yourself today?
What can you be gentler on yourself with?
What are your strengths?
Why are you awesome?
How were you kind to yourself today?
How did you love yourself today?
How can you make things easier for yourself today?

Self-Compassion Exercises by Dr. Kristin Neff

Today...was a stressful day, because I was alone. But I wrote to my friend, and she's going to write back. I went grocery shopping. And I was proactive about finding volunteer work. I feel that my situation, being lonely, is a universal feeling. I also have depression. I'm not gonna beat myself up though. Sometimes I think I use self help, to beat myself up. Because I MUST CHANGE. No. Maybe I'm ok being me.

[Gus1234U]

today i will not beat myself up; i will not call me names, i will not sneer at myself, i will not disparage my image in the mirror.

i WILL acknowledge just holding my own as a success, tolerating set-backs without fits as progress, and generally admit that i have a lovely sense of humor, and am working hard to improve daily~!

[Marla500]

I can be gentler with myself by not pushing myself so hard at work. I'll never get paid extra for going home with a headache every day.

Thank you starrysky! This is a good thread. And yes we're ok being who we are

[sans]

Today I will try to get out of the house, and appreciate something in nature. I will be gentle with myself about my lack of motivation, and know that little by little, I can go at my own pace. I will make an effort to do kind acts for those around me, and something kind for myself along the way. Xo
Sans

I'm learning that I have a voice and style. It comes out in how I dress, in the things I find so funny they bring me pure joy, in the books I love, in the things I enjoy, and in the people I genuinely like and enjoy being around.

https://www.quora.com/Why-do-I-feel-...-avoiding-them

The first answer is a really great / helpful answer!

Today, self compassion = distraction. Watching American Dad. Also a walk.

I stuck to everything I said I was going to do today. It felt good to be around people.

[Tazwert]

Originally Posted by starrysky

I stuck to everything I said I was going to do today. It felt good to be around people.

[PianogirlPlays]

Originally Posted by starrysky

I stuck to everything I said I was going to do today. It felt good to be around people.

I really tried to day to keep up with chores, distract with good activities and get out...

Originally Posted by PianogirlPlays

I really tried to day to keep up with chores, distract with good activities and get out...

Awesome

[twistypringle98]

I'm having some trouble with setting goals for myself. I want to do things this year that I know will help me out but find that I lack the courage to do them. I already told myself that I would do two things each month over the course of the year but things just haven't come my way. (Finding a job and doing the job correctly all the time were my two goals for January).

Whenever I go to job sites or just explore town for some spots to apply at, I get eager for responses that never come. I lost my job after I was the best one doing it! I know that I got fired for my diagnosis coming through my facade of what I wanted to act like all the time - and a bit of whispering .

I'm thinking about switching up my project for something that is something like move from one activity that I'd like to participate in to the next while in some way doing them all. I realized the other day that I really only had things on my list things about activities.


I post this in this thread because I've been harsh on myself and my sister in the past. I used to blame my sister for my disorder suddenly showing up in the short amount of time that I lived with her but now I realize that I was just too much of a chicken to say no and stand up for myself when she would have said we were bonding or something like, "You need to get with the times, Rebecca! You're not a Baby Boomer!" (She is so hateful sometimes it's ridiculous). We drank together and smoked cigarettes and pot which was the first time that I had tried any of those things. I still smoke a vape with nicotine in it though. I still sort of blame her influence on why I fell so hard into schizoaffective disorder from what my doctor told me.



Anyway this whole year to me is about saying yes and no to things using common sense like in that movie Yes Man with Jim Carrey in it.

[catspajamas4]

I took things slowly today which I am usually notoriously bad at. But after the gym I spent time stretching and extra time in the shower to relax. I'm trying to be more compassionate with myself when I don't fulfill my "perfect habits" all day like eating perfectly or not hitting snooze, because those things don't determine my worth.

[sans]

I am finding it easier to be at ease with the decisions I make. Just because someone chooses a different path, my path is what works for me. Xo

Today I went to church and meditation group.

I had a realization today. I'm choosing to keep it to myself.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Current read: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Esteem-W...steem+workbook (The Self Esteem Workbook)