Gaining self esteem

Hi Buffy01,

Unfortunately there is no one size fits all for raising self-esteem. I once had very low self-esteem, I hated myself and couldn't understand how anyone could like me.

I, like you, read lots of books but the books don't work by passively reading them. It take a lot of effort, you will need to do alot of work, and do it consistently for a long time.

The main contributor to me inceeasing my self-esteem was purposefully putting myself in situations that felt uncomfortable and then looking for all of the positives that came out of each.

I started small and worked my way up to what was first me a life changing moment. I did a parachute jump from 3200 feet. A parachute jump, not a tandum skydive, a parachute jump where you have to jump out on your own is easily accessible but take a huge amount of courage.

You could book one tomorrow, After the first jump I felt like if I could do that I could do anything. I became the benchmark for many things I thought I couldn't do. I used to ask myself, "is this harder than jumping from a plane" the answer was always No. As I'd already jumped.from a plane I could do whatever was in front of me.

I'm not saying jump out of a plane but I am saying have a think about something you could do to really push you out of you comfort zone and go do it. Then find something else and do that. Rinse and repeat until you've reached the level of self-esteem you're happy with.