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Buffy, I wish there was something I could say to help! You seem like a nice person who's had some
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I’ll keep that in mind..

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Unhappy Nov 23, 2022 at 09:13 PM
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The doubts I have about myself, my self-esteem, my self-confidence are an incredible mess. I've defined myself for so long by my "status" in life. That I was happily married and lived in a nice house. I didn't have to worry about a single thing because my husband loved me and that's all that mattered.

Oops. That's gone. And, though I haven't had confidence or self-esteem for a good while, it all is less than zero now. AND, I have to learn to do everything myself and by myself now. No confidence and no self-esteem (plus severe anxiety)-- how the heck am I supposed to survive on my own in this condition?!!
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Default Nov 24, 2022 at 08:14 PM
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Do you have family that can help you?
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Do you have family that can help you?
My family ignored me.

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Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live.

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It seems this forum is a decent place for some support, I'm glad to be on it.
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I'm terribly happy I found this forum. That is covers more realms that just say a general medical forum or a psychiatry forum. I appreciate that actual Life situations here. And I have so far found everyone so very nice and helpful as possible. Even just lending an ear is good enough. I only have one friend in the world who I've never even actually met. I hate the town I live in. The people just don't change. Ever. That's why I was so happy when my stbexh and I got a wonderful house in another little town. Kind of like a suburb, but we're not that big over here.

To Catsrock (I wholeheartedly believe that too!) and Buffy01, I have 3 family members living in the same town as me. My sister only helps a little. She's 10 years older than I am. Has her husbad and kids. My mom is the helper. Well, now she's the full helper. My husband used to love me and he would do just about anything in the world for me! It went from one day he loves me to the next day he said he should have done this long ago, so now divorce time and my life has ended so far as I've known it to have been all these years. I truly felt in my heart that we we're going to make it. All those years I felt that!! It seemed natural and preordained since the very first time we talked.

A breath. Soooo...... Part of me wants to live with Mom, cause I would be for sure safe and wouldn't have to run All the errands. And I wouldn't be alone and depressed. Part of me wants my own low-income apartment so that confidence will build. But I'm also really scared. And these low-income housings (I have no income) don't open up all the time. If I were to turn down the first opening whenever it comes up, I could end up waiting another year or more for a second to be available.

Short answer made Very long- my mom.
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I'm terribly happy I found this forum. That is covers more realms that just say a general medical forum or a psychiatry forum. I appreciate that actual Life situations here. And I have so far found everyone so very nice and helpful as possible. Even just lending an ear is good enough. I only have one friend in the world who I've never even actually met. I hate the town I live in. The people just don't change. Ever. That's why I was so happy when my stbexh and I got a wonderful house in another little town. Kind of like a suburb, but we're not that big over here. ;)

To Catsrock (I wholeheartedly believe that too!) and Buffy01, I have 3 family members living in the same town as me. My sister only helps a little. She's 10 years older than I am. Has her husbad and kids. My mom is the helper. Well, now she's the full helper. My husband used to love me and he would do just about anything in the world for me! It went from one day he loves me to the next day he said he should have done this long ago, so now divorce time and my life has ended so far as I've known it to have been all these years. I truly felt in my heart that we we're going to make it. All those years I felt that!! It seemed natural and preordained since the very first time we talked.

A breath. Soooo...... Part of me wants to live with Mom, cause I would be for sure safe and wouldn't have to run All the errands. And I wouldn't be alone and depressed. Part of me wants my own low-income apartment so that confidence will build. But I'm also really scared. And these low-income housings (I have no income) don't open up all the time. If I were to turn down the first opening whenever it comes up, I could end up waiting another year or more for a second to be available.

Short answer made Very long- my mom.
I’m glad that myself and everyone else could help you.

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Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live.

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That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries
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It seems this forum is a decent place for some support, I'm glad to be on it.
I’m glad that we could help you feel better.

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Like love, it's how we know we're alive.

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That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries
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Default Nov 25, 2022 at 08:50 PM
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Thanks Buffy! I'm a bit older, and alot of my friends and family have passed. Its nice to make new friends!
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Thanks Buffy! I'm a bit older, and alot of my friends and family have passed. Its nice to make new friends!
Your welcome. I’m sorry for your loss.

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If peoples main problem is financial, I don't know what to tell them except , if you have psychological problems, try to get on social security disability. It is really hard to make an honest living , and I was never good at it.
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If peoples main problem is financial, I don't know what to tell them except , if you have psychological problems, try to get on social security disability. It is really hard to make an honest living , and I was never good at it.
I never felt good enough, smart enough.

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Default Nov 27, 2022 at 05:36 PM
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I hear that. I've always had a complex too. In some ways most people are more skilled than I am , more knowledgeable, better looking, but sometimes I love myself in spite of all that, as I get older , the negative feelings aren' t as persistent.
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Thought this is good
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Hi Buffy, how's things going?
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Hi Buffy, how's things going?
My disability has pulled down my self esteem

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Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live.

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That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries
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I wish you felt good, Its hard to have self esteem in this world today. Pour your heart out to God privately, cast your burden on him, (or her) . Its a constant battle.
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I wish you felt good, Its hard to have self esteem in this world today. Pour your heart out to God privately, cast your burden on him, (or her) . Its a constant battle.
I wished that I felt good as well.

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Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live.

This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak.

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That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries
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This is reassuring
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