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Default Mar 17, 2022 at 07:50 PM
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I am struggling with connecting with people because I feel like I'm getting preoccupied with the negative self talk spirals in my head.

I am doing a rotation in psychiatry working in the medical hospital. I am very qualified in my knowledge, I passed the psychiatry boards very decisively and have always been a straight A student. I got all As in medical school and had the strongest academic record among the whole class.

But I'm struggling so much interpersonally in this job setting. I don't know what to study or focus on to get past this. I beat myself up saying "I don't know how to connect" over and over in my head. I saw a patient today and I wasn't reassuring with my dialogue and interpersonal demeanor. I also had a family meeting today when the attending did all of the talking and I sat there passively.

I want to be more spontaneous and in the moment and able to talk more freely and confidently. I'm really struggling.
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Default Mar 18, 2022 at 08:59 AM
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Hi @bpfighter250 - I am sorry to hear you are having trouble connecting. That must be rough in a field that requires communication as its primary work tool. I am not sure what emotions and thoughts are going through your head so what I suggest is basically things that work for me.

I use lifestyle changes in addition to seeking professional help and support groups, I also practice exercise, mindfulness, eating healthy moderate protein low carb diet, getting fresh air and either online or in real life social contact.

As a way to open up the heart I find these loving kindness meditations help me.

Joan Borysenko Loving kindness meditation for peace and happiness - Monday Meditations Loving kindness meditation for peace and happiness - Monday Meditations - YouTube Very Relaxing

Loving Kindness Meditation The Medical City
Loving Kindness Meditation - YouTube
This is only 5 minutes and has goood spacing
It also avoids the problem of sending kindness to those we have difficulties with

8 minutes relaxing voice Guided meditation - Loving kindness
Guided meditation - Loving kindness - YouTube what I like is she asks us to Notice rather than do something

Metta Meditation Loving Kindness and Compassion | Voice NICE SPACING Only Metta Meditation Loving Kindness and Compassion | Voice Only - YouTube As I see your pain, my pain releases different idea that makes sense to me.

5 minutes 5 Minute Guided Loving Kindness not a lot of directions in terms of what to say Meditation 5 Minute Guided Loving Kindness Meditation - YouTube
This would allow another 5 minute video to be included

12 minutes Loving Kindness Meditation ~ Metta Meditation (12 mins)
Zanna Yoga https://youtu.be/l_p-qmzyaaE I also love the ocean

This is by Kristin Neff who is well known for work in compassion but is 21 minutes. But nice spacing https://youtu.be/9cxtdiXBQDk

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I am struggling with connecting with people because I feel like I'm getting preoccupied with the negative self talk spirals in my head.

I am doing a rotation in psychiatry working in the medical hospital. I am very qualified in my knowledge, I passed the psychiatry boards very decisively and have always been a straight A student. I got all As in medical school and had the strongest academic record among the whole class.

But I'm struggling so much interpersonally in this job setting. I don't know what to study or focus on to get past this. I beat myself up saying "I don't know how to connect" over and over in my head. I saw a patient today and I wasn't reassuring with my dialogue and interpersonal demeanor. I also had a family meeting today when the attending did all of the talking and I sat there passively.

I want to be more spontaneous and in the moment and able to talk more freely and confidently. I'm really struggling.
I'm so sorry that you are really struggling right now.

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