[Gavreel]

Hey guys, Hope everyone is well.
Remember the old days when self esteem was only something we experienced at our school or place of employment, people believing they're better than everyone else now it seems to have crept right in to our households and are exposed to it 24/7 thanks to Social Media. We thought we would be safe as adults.

Before you ask, I am actually not against social media more so its the people that use it that drive me completely nuts. Do they realize the extent of their actions have on other people? are they doing this on purpose? delusional? boasters? or do they really believe their lives are so perfect? I honestly believe if your life is so happy and you have this perfect little marriage, why feel a need to talk about it all the time?

Could it be narcissism? and we are the victims?

Basically it isn't healthy, unfortunately its the modern form of communication and how we keep in touch. I have closed many of my accounts, I actually don't feel I'm missing out at all. I give people my number and if they want to text me they can or arrange a meet up. If this is modern than I'm sorry, we are going backwards.

I can't even imagine what its going to be like 20 years down the road but our youth is suffering big time because of these people.

Thanks for listening to my rant for today hahaha

give us some feedback.

Much love

[Yaowen]

There is a lot to what you say. A lot!

I have a theory which is not scientific and probably wrong, but I think there are a lot more people out there suffering mental illness than who have been diagnosed and treated for it.

Social media is often a good thing but sometimes it is a way to engage in doom and hate posting and doom and hate scrolling, both of which can be habit forming.

I have done a lot of traveling to poor countries and have found the people there generally happier than the ones in my country. They seem to have an attitude towards most everything which is: "Could be worse, but isn't worse, thank goodness."

This attitude tends to generate feelings and moods of appreciation, feeling lucky or blessed, peace of mind and joy of live.

Most people where I live have an attitude of something like: "Things could be better but are not better. How enraging. How sad. How pathetic.

This attitude tends to generate moods and feelings of annoyance, frustration, aggravation, rage and sadness. It would be strange indeed it this attitude didn't generate these kinds of mental contents.

Why do some people look at themselves, others, things and events and think: could be worse, while other people look at the very same things and think: could be better?

People stuck in the negative frame of mind seem drawn into social media especially as a way to vent things like doom and hate posting and doom and hate scrolling. Maybe I am wrong. I am often wrong about things.

[Gavreel]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

There is a lot to what you say. A lot!

I have a theory which is not scientific and probably wrong, but I think there are a lot more people out there suffering mental illness than who have been diagnosed and treated for it.

Social media is often a good thing but sometimes it is a way to engage in doom and hate posting and doom and hate scrolling, both of which can be habit forming.

I have done a lot of traveling to poor countries and have found the people there generally happier than the ones in my country. They seem to have an attitude towards most everything which is: "Could be worse, but isn't worse, thank goodness."

This attitude tends to generate feelings and moods of appreciation, feeling lucky or blessed, peace of mind and joy of live.

Most people where I live have an attitude of something like: "Things could be better but are not better. How enraging. How sad. How pathetic.

This attitude tends to generate moods and feelings of annoyance, frustration, aggravation, rage and sadness. It would be strange indeed it this attitude didn't generate these kinds of mental contents.

Why do some people look at themselves, others, things and events and think: could be worse, while other people look at the very same things and think: could be better?

People stuck in the negative frame of mind seem drawn into social media especially as a way to vent things like doom and hate posting and doom and hate scrolling. Maybe I am wrong. I am often wrong about things.

Yes very true, I can be very negative times but I am trying to break free from the shackles and live.

[harborcoat]

Originally Posted by Gavreel

are they doing this on purpose? delusional? boasters? or do they really believe their lives are so perfect? I honestly believe if your life is so happy and you have this perfect little marriage, why feel a need to talk about it all the time?

Could it be narcissism? and we are the victims?

Yes and no. I think social media definitely has narcissists. How could such a platform NOT attract people like that? But I don't think that they are the majority.


I think most of what you see on there that looks like bragging is about perception. There are people who post all of their problems on facebook, for example, but most rational people don't. Most are aware that their friends and families and old high school classmates and casual acquaintances aren't interested in the fight they had with their spouse yesterday or the guy who pissed them off at work today. And we don't want to think about those things, either. So we post the happy stuff, and we attempt to present ourselves as we wish to be seen - stable, with it, together, and happy. We post the pictures from our vacation and the happy holiday memories and how excited we are about our new car or our kids' report cards. And then your old high school chum who you haven't seen in decades sees it and thinks, "Oh, man, that person is living the high life!" because he's comparing his marriage to yours or his vacation to yours or whatever.


In other words, we see our entire lives, the good and the bad, while others see the parts we show them. Nine times out of ten, we're not showing them the bad.


And I don't know if there is a fix for that. I certainly don't want my friends to NOT post pictures of their vacations and their happiness because I'm comparing it to my misery. And I definitely don't want to read about their problems every day.


Just my two cents.

[Gavreel]

Originally Posted by harborcoat

Yes and no. I think social media definitely has narcissists. How could such a platform NOT attract people like that? But I don't think that they are the majority.


I think most of what you see on there that looks like bragging is about perception. There are people who post all of their problems on facebook, for example, but most rational people don't. Most are aware that their friends and families and old high school classmates and casual acquaintances aren't interested in the fight they had with their spouse yesterday or the guy who pissed them off at work today. And we don't want to think about those things, either. So we post the happy stuff, and we attempt to present ourselves as we wish to be seen - stable, with it, together, and happy. We post the pictures from our vacation and the happy holiday memories and how excited we are about our new car or our kids' report cards. And then your old high school chum who you haven't seen in decades sees it and thinks, "Oh, man, that person is living the high life!" because he's comparing his marriage to yours or his vacation to yours or whatever.


In other words, we see our entire lives, the good and the bad, while others see the parts we show them. Nine times out of ten, we're not showing them the bad.


And I don't know if there is a fix for that. I certainly don't want my friends to NOT post pictures of their vacations and their happiness because I'm comparing it to my misery. And I definitely don't want to read about their problems every day.


Just my two cents.

I don't mind people bragging or having a lovely holiday or whatever or someone announcing their pregnancies, I just feel some people can over do it to the point where you start question the sincerity of it that's all. There's something wrong there and something very unhealthy.

[Mi Amor]

Originally Posted by Gavreel

Hey guys, Hope everyone is well.
Remember the old days when self esteem was only something we experienced at our school or place of employment, people believing they're better than everyone else now it seems to have crept right in to our households and are exposed to it 24/7 thanks to Social Media. We thought we would be safe as adults.

Before you ask, I am actually not against social media more so its the people that use it that drive me completely nuts. Do they realize the extent of their actions have on other people? are they doing this on purpose? delusional? boasters? or do they really believe their lives are so perfect? I honestly believe if your life is so happy and you have this perfect little marriage, why feel a need to talk about it all the time?

Could it be narcissism? and we are the victims?

Basically it isn't healthy, unfortunately its the modern form of communication and how we keep in touch. I have closed many of my accounts, I actually don't feel I'm missing out at all. I give people my number and if they want to text me they can or arrange a meet up. If this is modern than I'm sorry, we are going backwards.

I can't even imagine what its going to be like 20 years down the road but our youth is suffering big time because of these people.

Thanks for listening to my rant for today hahaha

give us some feedback.

Much love

I don't believe the mind is meant to have huge amounts of exposure to such low content info. It's "if you don't use it, you lose.it"

[Samicat]

I deleted all my social media after watching The Social Dilemma on Netflix. I am happier without it

[Fuzzybear]

Interesting thread. I may have something to add here.

[LadyShadow]

I believe in the addicting component to it. People collect likes and add people as if they are commodities. And when there is drama, people like to comment and make opinions without knowing the whole story usually adding fuel to the fire. I am addicted too. I scroll at least a few times a day, looking at how many "likes" someone has compared to my own posts - completely self-absorbed I know, but it's a habit I would like to break.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by LadyShadow

I believe in the addicting component to it. People collect likes and add people as if they are commodities. And when there is drama, people like to comment and make opinions without knowing the whole story usually adding fuel to the fire. I am addicted too. I scroll at least a few times a day, looking at how many "likes" someone has compared to my own posts - completely self-absorbed I know, but it's a habit I would like to break.

I agree, it can be addictive. I don't do the ''likes'' thing. Well, what I mean is, I rarely post anything on my page. But I do click ''like'' to a few good friends if I see something that resonates with me I don't add people unless I need them as neighbours for a game, and that would be rare. Or occasionally, a new friend. Or even more occasionally, someone I find from long ago. (that is more difficult, and I won't go into why that is)

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Gavreel

Hey guys, Hope everyone is well.
Remember the old days when self esteem was only something we experienced at our school or place of employment, people believing they're better than everyone else now it seems to have crept right in to our households and are exposed to it 24/7 thanks to Social Media. We thought we would be safe as adults.

Before you ask, I am actually not against social media more so its the people that use it that drive me completely nuts. Do they realize the extent of their actions have on other people? are they doing this on purpose? delusional? boasters? or do they really believe their lives are so perfect? I honestly believe if your life is so happy and you have this perfect little marriage, why feel a need to talk about it all the time?

Could it be narcissism? and we are the victims?

Basically it isn't healthy, unfortunately its the modern form of communication and how we keep in touch. I have closed many of my accounts, I actually don't feel I'm missing out at all. I give people my number and if they want to text me they can or arrange a meet up. If this is modern than I'm sorry, we are going backwards.

I can't even imagine what its going to be like 20 years down the road but our youth is suffering big time because of these people.

Thanks for listening to my rant for today hahaha

give us some feedback.

Much love

People can be very cruel especially those who troll others.