[Bella722]

Hi everyone! I am new here. I have problems with my self-esteem. When I am "UP" then I have NO problem with my self-esteem, but the rest of the time, I really have very low self-esteem. I just thought I would share my opinion on this.

[SeptemberMorn]

Ummm... Doc John, could we have some stickies, too? You know... for my little green arrows and for 1day's suggestions? Thank you!

[Maya]

This is a good forum. What has helped my self-esteem is learning yoga at age 57 and being able to do it. I feel so spiritually close to those in the class and those good feelings carry over into my daily life. I am more flexible and that is good as I suffer from RA in addition to my emotional/mental problems.

[Rapunzel]

I like yoga too. I've never taken a class but I do it with a DVD or video, and have been able to learn a lot from that and books. There's a book called "Yoga For Depression" that explains how a daily yoga practice can help to overcome depression. I learned a lot from that too. I've even thought about maybe taking classes to become a yoga instructor. Well, maybe in another lifetime when I have a little more free time.

[PetulantWolf]

gee I really am a loser....

[Rapunzel]

Well, now, tell me what you could to in order to change that perception of yourself. We'd be happy to provide support and encouragement. Maybe you would like to start by looking through the threads here to see what there is that might help you. Then, if you have questions or comments, or anything you would like help with, just let us know what we can do for you.

Welcome to Psych Central.

Rapunzel

[hungrynomad]

im new here and i seem to find myself at an empasse, i cant figure out the most effective way to overcome my issues medication is a joke to me(i become tolerant quickly), therapy hasnt helped or i havent found someone who is willing to help, im reaching 30 yrs old and am facing as much as anyone else. Im not really complaining but i am seeking advice. I live in an area where there is not much in the way of accessable therapy or much help im seeking...or im not looking hard enough. Sometimes it seems pointless...or could the answer be me?

welcome to the forums...when you are feeling comfortable why don't you tell us about some of your issues.....maybe we can help you.....

[pudding]

Hi everyone,

New to the site. I hope to find the answers I'm looking for.

I am a recovering Aloholic of 14+ years. I still have some very big self esteem issues but not quite sure if their my truth or other peoples truth. I am now looking into Borderline personality disorder & wondering if I can get some feed back on this topic.

Thanking you in advance,

Pudding

[hungrynomad]

lets see....most days are the same, im completely disinterested in anything, im easily aggrivated over trivial petty things, lil attention span, constantly distracted and quick to anger...i can trace some of these to a couple of events of my youth but thatll wait, iwanna see where this therapy goes. other issues: paranoid to the point where im losing sleep and you know those "things" out of the corner of your eye...i see those...i know a lot of this sounds a bit unbelievable but its true its taken this long for all these and more issues to arise. self esteem has nearly hit rock bottom, i just wanna vent but am afraid of the outcome. thanks for listening...

[goodolboy]

The Bible says we're not to judge others but it don't say we should,nt judge ourselves. The only way we can solve a problem with self esteem,or anything else, we must first admit that a problem exist, Once we admit that we have a problem then we can go to work on finding the solution to it.
Anytime we have a problem the first thing we need to do is look in the mirror and ask ourselves what am I doing wrong, and what can I do to solve this problem.
The last thing we should do is place the blame for our problems on others. Always remember that there's nothing we can't do if we have faith in ourselves. Faith equal to a grain of mustard seed can move mountains. We can be anything we want to be if we simply have faith in ourselves and NEVER give up.

I just want to make a clarification to this idea of judgement of others and self. The Bible's teaching of judging others is to what standard we are judging. We must to remember that if we judge others by OUR standard, we will also be held to that same standard.

Our role is to judge the character and actions of others in light of God's word, not our own ideas. We have enough on our plates with dealing with the everyday without taking on the role of final judge by pronouncing condemnation. Remember the Bible cautions us to not attempt removing the little speck in someone's eye when you have a 2X4 (paraphrased) sticking out of your own eye. Take care of your major issues before you try to correct someone's minor issues.

The issue of judging oneself, again, to a standard we cannot possibly attain is self-defeating. It goes to the idea that we are almost always harder on ourselves than others are on us. (Something which I struggle with daily.)

I hope this helps clear it up a bit.

By the way, I am new here. I hope to find support as I work through my own demons.

Thanks

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The Bible says we're not to judge others but it don't say we should,nt judge ourselves. The only way we can solve a problem with self esteem,or anything else, we must first admit that a problem exist, Once we admit that we have a problem then we can go to work on finding the solution to it.
Anytime we have a problem the first thing we need to do is look in the mirror and ask ourselves what am I doing wrong, and what can I do to solve this problem.
The last thing we should do is place the blame for our problems on others. Always remember that there's nothing we can't do if we have faith in ourselves. Faith equal to a grain of mustard seed can move mountains. We can be anything we want to be if we simply have faith in ourselves and NEVER give up.

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Angel,

I agree, this is a good forum.

As far as improving self-esteem helping other areas of your life, well, that is why I am here. When I feel better about myself, I seem to do better in other areas. My problem is that it doesn't last. I have struggled with depression for a very long time and I believe it is due to my low self-esteem.

Good luck to you. I hope we can all be inspiring to each other.

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I for one, am glad to see this new forum. Thanks Doc John for providing this new forum for us. ...

... I think if I could improve my self-esteem, maybe some of my other issues in life might just fall into place and not become real issues to begin with. Opinions?

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[munna2]

I for one have no self esteem.I truly believe nobody likes me,so I never know how to act,depending on where I am or who I'm with because I want people to like me,but I can't find me.
I was in the hospital recently and I am working on it,very slowly. I can tell this could take years. Munna2

[Vander]

This looks like a neat place! I am a former therapist/social worker/teacher; we have self-esteem problems from time to time as well! I love to see people supporting each other, and I understand how it is that so many folks don't know how to solicit or ask for it, accept it or use it! <font color="#880000"> </font> <font color="#880000"> </font>

[arod13]

((( munna2 )))
take your time and it will come

[catwoman]

I am so happy I found this site:-) I need help with my self-esteem. I have been told a lot that I need help with my confidence - since I am in inside sales -- on the phone....I feel I am confident but I guess I really am not 100% if managers tell me I need help....

[catwoman]

great website -- thanks for your help!

[Rapunzel]

Hi Catwoman,

I am glad that you like the forum. IMO, this is a very helpful forum. Feel free to post more if you want to. If you have specific questions, someone here may be able to help you or point you in the right directions. It's also fine if you just want to read for now. I do hope that you find what you are looking for.

Rap

[Motivator]

Hi I am new to this forum.
Glad to find so many like minded people here
and will like to give a short introduction about myself

I used to have low self esteem but during these
couple of years, after I am exposed to motivational
resouces, I have become optimisitic about myself.

I read generally all types of books and audios. Favorite topic is on Law of Attraction, the secret movie .

[Corine]

Thank you DocJohn,
Hoping that is forum will help me out..
I know that I'm told all the time what a wonderful person I am..And how I wish I could see what others see in me...
Maybe in here I will
Thanks again

[athens64]

Hi everyone.. I'm new here too.. I too have self-esteem isuues. I came across this site in my effort to find answers as to why I don't value myself as much as I should. This self-esteem thing has really caused me alot of problems in my life. Both in my personal life as well as my professional life. I have to understand why I feel the way I do about myself if I have any hope of solving the problems that keep surfacing due to my low self-esteem. I can't expect others to value or appreciate me if I don't feel worthy to begin with. This has got to change.. and I don't know if I'll be able to do it on my own or if I'll need professional help but I've got to start somewhere. I've spent so much time and energy cleaning up the mess this issue has created in my life that it feels as if I've been running around in circles forever, without actually getting anywhere. Atleast nowhere that I feel happy being.. Anyway I'm glad I found this place. Perhaps here I may find some help. It's comforting to know that there are others out there who share similar difficulties and are trying to sort them out.

[Hopeforme2]

This is so helpful and informative. Thanks

[Jenwildcat24]

Hi,

I can completely relate to vacantangel's situation. I also feel that I have no self esteem. I 2 have so much self hatred, that it dramatically effects my life. I am now married but am so worried to let my husband do much of anything becuase I am really wondering how he could love this terrible person I believe I am. I feel worthless, and unlovable, I can't trust anyone, and am starting to push everyone away. I have known about this since my teenage years, but now am so sick of it I want to change. Please help me. Can anyone tell me where to start??? TY

[Junerain]

I would start by reaching out to folks here on PC, sharing your story, how your feelings got to be this way, out of the thousands here, many will be able to relate, and relate accurately at that

Have you ever made a list of all the GOOD things about yourself?

You express yourself well, you reached out, here is me reaching back...