[arod13]

((( munna2 )))
take your time and it will come

[catwoman]

I am so happy I found this site:-) I need help with my self-esteem. I have been told a lot that I need help with my confidence - since I am in inside sales -- on the phone....I feel I am confident but I guess I really am not 100% if managers tell me I need help....

[catwoman]

great website -- thanks for your help!

[Rapunzel]

Hi Catwoman,

I am glad that you like the forum. IMO, this is a very helpful forum. Feel free to post more if you want to. If you have specific questions, someone here may be able to help you or point you in the right directions. It's also fine if you just want to read for now. I do hope that you find what you are looking for.

Rap

[Motivator]

Hi I am new to this forum.
Glad to find so many like minded people here
and will like to give a short introduction about myself

I used to have low self esteem but during these
couple of years, after I am exposed to motivational
resouces, I have become optimisitic about myself.

I read generally all types of books and audios. Favorite topic is on Law of Attraction, the secret movie .

[Corine]

Thank you DocJohn,
Hoping that is forum will help me out..
I know that I'm told all the time what a wonderful person I am..And how I wish I could see what others see in me...
Maybe in here I will
Thanks again

[athens64]

Hi everyone.. I'm new here too.. I too have self-esteem isuues. I came across this site in my effort to find answers as to why I don't value myself as much as I should. This self-esteem thing has really caused me alot of problems in my life. Both in my personal life as well as my professional life. I have to understand why I feel the way I do about myself if I have any hope of solving the problems that keep surfacing due to my low self-esteem. I can't expect others to value or appreciate me if I don't feel worthy to begin with. This has got to change.. and I don't know if I'll be able to do it on my own or if I'll need professional help but I've got to start somewhere. I've spent so much time and energy cleaning up the mess this issue has created in my life that it feels as if I've been running around in circles forever, without actually getting anywhere. Atleast nowhere that I feel happy being.. Anyway I'm glad I found this place. Perhaps here I may find some help. It's comforting to know that there are others out there who share similar difficulties and are trying to sort them out.

[Hopeforme2]

This is so helpful and informative. Thanks

[Jenwildcat24]

Hi,

I can completely relate to vacantangel's situation. I also feel that I have no self esteem. I 2 have so much self hatred, that it dramatically effects my life. I am now married but am so worried to let my husband do much of anything becuase I am really wondering how he could love this terrible person I believe I am. I feel worthless, and unlovable, I can't trust anyone, and am starting to push everyone away. I have known about this since my teenage years, but now am so sick of it I want to change. Please help me. Can anyone tell me where to start??? TY

[Junerain]

I would start by reaching out to folks here on PC, sharing your story, how your feelings got to be this way, out of the thousands here, many will be able to relate, and relate accurately at that

Have you ever made a list of all the GOOD things about yourself?

You express yourself well, you reached out, here is me reaching back...

[*Mindful]

Dear DocJohn
I am glad i came across this forum. i am aware about my many personality disorders and i am trying to figure the way to deal with it and get my life on track...
I believe i am in the right place to do so and achieve what i want. Why keep on looking at the empty half of the glass and bitting my nail in self biting i rather look at the full half to rebuild my inner strenght and overcome my demons.
Yes i am not powerless to change my life to what i want it to be... thank you for starting positive projects to help the community!

Sincerely
*m

BTW I tried to follow the link for the self esteem booklet but it is working...

[SallyBeam]

Thanks DocJohn... I love and support this 3 simple powerful step for self esteem

[BashfullOne]

I have been beaten down for so many years, from my earliest childhood memories to my last job, I don't know if I can find any thing that I like about my self - Im weak, I let people belittle me at work until the poing I had a mental break down and now can't even leave my home. I'm afraid of people, I don't know what to say to them, I'm afraid I will say something wrong... I've been told that I'm a warm, loving, giving, person - if so, than why the beat down from my manager and two of my coworkers?! I am now jobless and trying to get SSD.
Once upon a time I did manage to have some self esteem - I was an EMT and Firefighter for over 21 years. Until we lost a little 5 yr old who was hit by a car.... I never got over that - they said we did all we could, that there was nothing we could have done - there was too much head trauma. But it's always in the back of my mind...what if I would have done this... what if.... what if!!! I know it doesn't bring her back... But after 15 years it's still with me. That on top the of abuse I received growing up, having my mother tell me constantly how much she hated me and wished I would have died when I was a baby... then the on goings at my last job.... I never hurt anyone!! I did not deserve any of the ongoing treatment that I was getting and HR just turned the other way after telling them all to lay off me. Little did that do....
So where do I start to find Self Esteem.... I think I'm dean inside and don't know what to do... I feel totally lost in the self esteem department.

[Intervieuwerrr]

The only moments my selfesteem is visable is on the stage. Once i'm on the stage I close myself from the world. it doesn't mean I'm not nerveous, but it helps. I whish that my self esteem was visable in daily life.

Faith.

[Champagne]

Thanks DocJohn,
I am learning more about the chat rooms as I move along the different Forums. I now know what POSTS mean. It is the number of times you write something and it eventually is printed on a meeting place house : the FORUMS.

As I have said and typed on other forum pages, this geek and nerd world is totally new. My head is going through spin trying to work out the how to insert the icons, pictures, Ribbon above the message box, icons, and what the....Where did the.... My written blog or post has just disappeared into cyberspace world out there. My computer IT class have said that I keep forgetting to press the SAVE button. Well in Forums there is no SAVE BUTTON for your blog unless the BIG EYE, Yes DocJohn approves after 5 posts. Hee Hee Hee. Yes it is for safety measures. God bless you JOHN and the team of EYES watching, fans, visitors and including the Surfing (Geek word I am learning, Yes and double running on the spot...sorry no funny faces to see me doing a FLASHDANCER, Jennifer Beals running exercise on the spot... but you all can I...M...A..G...I...N...E), around the FORUMS drop ins and drop outs. (Wow the new Geek definition is so empowering. Another Flashdance for me).

Hi all.

[nurse58]

I am very new to this world. I am new to this site and new to actually participating in online forums. I have visited quite a few websites but until today I never felt comfortable in joining and participating. I have spent the last hour just trying to figure out where to start with my new member post. Self esteem is a good place for me to start because I am really lacking in that department. I hope I got this right. I long for a non-judgemental community in which to learn and heal.

[Junerain]

(((((((((((nurse58))))

A non judgemental community in which to heal....that would be uswelcomewrite more.....

[Ebpm]

Hello, and welcome nurse58! ;-) happy you decided to join us!

This website is amazing, and I know you'll find it helpful in all sorts of ways!

[LittleDora]

Ahah, I know how you feel nurse58, it took me at least an hour of staring at over ten topics to pick where to start.
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This topic is very helpful and it seems out of the three genters I can find myself being both the imposer and loser, depending on who I'm around at the time.I really wish I could act more freely around others though, but sometimes I found forcing smiles to force myself into something (that i'm originaly frightened to do) will end up leading to a real smile.It's good to risk a little at times, no matter what the situation is.You may not get the results you hoped for, but it's bad to neglect the other good ones coming from what you're doing at the time.

[broken_hearted]

Hi DocJohn,

I need help. I'm lost. I am ashamed to be in public. Many times when I am out I end up stopping what I am doing, become paralized in fear of people staring at me thinking how fat I am, how old I am, how ugly I am, etc... that for several mintues I can't move. I panic and self talk myself into leaving the cart and walk out so I can go home. I have these thoughts "what was I thinking going out in public?" ..... "I should of known better than to leave the house"...... "omg, look at me, I'm so fat." ..... etc.. I know the world does not revolve around me. I do, but I know people "people watch" and I'm so afraid they are looking at me saying horrible things about me. I go into panic attacks often over this. If I am with someone when I go out I am always asking why people are staring at me and ask if I look fat or ugly or whatever.......

A little back ground.... I am a child abuse adult survivor. I literally should not be alive. I had many horrific relationships where I was nearly killed. I am on my 3rd marriage which was extremely abusive at first but has stopped for the most part. I have been compared to other women by men in my life and also in my current marriage. I feel I can never measure up. I feel like I am nothing. Just learned my husband is ADHD which I suspected for a long time. He is not trying to make an effort in learning skills to help the situation. I however am in counseling and working hard on my own issues. I've tried things to help my self esteem but nothing has worked. I have to go out tomorrow and I am already in a panic about what to wear that can hide me. I don't look down or wear my sun glasses because it makes me feel I can't be seen.

Can someone please help me? I feel the only good thing in my life are my children from my 1st marriage. They are amazing and are married to wonderful spouses. They are why I keep going on in life. I love them so much.

I'm sorry for rambling. thank you for listening. God Bless.......