[Floralies]

Thank you so much for this group. I need it so much. My low self-esteem started as a child in the early development years. I am now 50. I am constantly second guessing everything I say and do. I am constantly beating myself up. I am constantly seeking approval. The list gos on and on.

[SeekerOfLife]

Trying to figure out the bottom line to all this.
I have low self esteem, poor assertiveness, depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD. So what underlies all of this? Or.....is it different for different people?
I find myself chasing each issue for a time. Then, feel like I am chasing the wrong thing. So, the chase begins anew.
I am in therapy. My therapist and I set goals for me to work on. Right now the goals are for better self esteem and improved assertiveness.
Not sure if I am going in the right direction--just like these wee folks below my words.

[Junerain]

Can you describe the process of chasing each issue? Sounds like you are really trying

[blu~eyes93]

Originally Posted by vacantangel

I for one, am glad to see this new forum. Thanks Doc John for providing this new forum for us.

I basically have NO self-esteem. It has been squashed and trampled on since early childhood, creating in me extremely negative thinking. In fact, I have so much self-hatred that I fail to see why others could possibly like me. I need constant reassurance, very tiring on those in my life. Is there hope for someone who is in my position? I think if I could improve my self-esteem, maybe some of my other issues in life might just fall into place and not become real issues to begin with. Opinions?

I feel the same way! I sometimes think I suck the life out of the people that love me! I use to have pretty good self~esteem and a decent self~image! Trying to get the negative thoughts or as an old therapist called it "Monkey Mouth" out of my head can sometimes be impossible!

[SeekerOfLife]

Junerain, Sometimes i think the answer is to deal with the depresssion. Another times I feel if I could just conquer the anxiety I could handle life. Sometimes I try to deal with the ADD on my own (but to no avail). I have several problems that I struggle with each day. I do not know what is the underlying issue. I guess that is why my therapist helped me choose two to work on. Hope that clarifies my statement.

[ExistingInChanges]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

Before you can begin to improve your self-esteem you must first believe that you can change it. Change doesn't necessarily happen quickly or easily, but it can happen. You are not powerless! Once you have accepted, or are at least willing to entertain the possibility that you are not powerless, there are three steps you can take to begin to change your self-esteem:

* Step 1: Rebut the Inner Critic
* Step 2: Practice Self-Nurturing
* Step 3: Get Help from Others

Learn more here:

CMHC UT Counseling and Mental Health

Enjoy the forum and remember, be good and support each other!
DocJohn

Step one is probably hardest. So many people already try to help me with my self esteem issues. So step three probably will not be bad, unless they give up on me before I get there. I was working on step two for other reasons regarding mental health. Thanks for the tips.

[Faking sane]

How were you guys able to access the information from the link? I couldn't get in...

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[katee1]

I think self esteem is just a chance.if you have it you are lucky and if you dont have it you are unlucky.and nobody can improve it.but if you can improve it then you are so lucky.

[ajohnson45]

Originally Posted by vacantangel

I for one, am glad to see this new forum. Thanks Doc John for providing this new forum for us.

I basically have NO self-esteem. It has been squashed and trampled on since early childhood, creating in me extremely negative thinking. In fact, I have so much self-hatred that I fail to see why others could possibly like me. I need constant reassurance, very tiring on those in my life. Is there hope for someone who is in my position? I think if I could improve my self-esteem, maybe some of my other issues in life might just fall into place and not become real issues to begin with. Opinions?

I have the same issue. I feel I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life and I am currently 17 years old. I haven't had a conversation with any girls I have been interested in for 2 years now as a result of depression and anxiety that probably were caused by my self hatred.

[FlorRosa]

What you mean with Self-Nurturing? How can I find my positive qualities and believe them that they are true?
Thanks in advance

[avlady]

I don't like the idea of people noticing me on my journey, but do need to thank the good ones

[LindaLu]

Thanks for making this forum, Doc. I lost self esteem in later life due to some bad decisions, bad luck and bad self talk. So having tools and techniques to reprogram the mindset would be great.

[penguinsing]

thank you very much

[misslabarinth]

i REALLY thank you for making this forum , i almost have o self-esteem, from all the things that have happened to me, being trampled on in school by kids, etc. so this forum really helps me! , your sincere thanks from ~MissLabarinth

[fns90]

Originally Posted by FlorRosa

What you mean with Self-Nurturing? How can I find my positive qualities and believe them that they are true?
Thanks in advance

You can find strengths in anything. Something as simple as being a good friend or something as big as being a survivor of a horrible situation. You find those strengths about yourself and just keep reminding yourself of them.

[byobb]

I can't seem to keep healthy relationships personal or on business. It's like I have this invisible sign that says "Run as fast and as far away from me as you can". I'm pretty down too earth... Nobody else notices or gives me time to realize that I'm not a phony or a fake. I don't understand it. I would really like it if someone just told me straight to my face... Then I wouldn't have so many paranoid thoughts of what their thinking about me

[WantToGrow]

Listen to the teachings of Eckhart Tolle and become Present and practice Acceptance!

[Amethyst_Stargazer]

I have horrible low self esteem and I'm constantly always comparing myself to others and don't think I'm a good person at all. I don't like who I am and I'm unhappy. I've been abused so many times in my life and right now I'm going through depression.

[jar222]

Hello everyone,
I am a student at a university, and I we were asked to join an online support group for the class. It had to deal with an interest or something we struggle with. I chose self-esteem because it is something I struggle with, accepting myself for who I really truly am, and knowing that I am just as good as anyone else. I really look forward to getting tips, and hearing other people testimonies.
Thank you.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

Before you can begin to improve your self-esteem you must first believe that you can change it. Change doesn't necessarily happen quickly or easily, but it can happen. You are not powerless! Once you have accepted, or are at least willing to entertain the possibility that you are not powerless, there are three steps you can take to begin to change your self-esteem:

* Step 1: Rebut the Inner Critic
* Step 2: Practice Self-Nurturing
* Step 3: Get Help from Others

Learn more here:

CMHC Self Esteem

Enjoy the forum and remember, be good and support each other!
DocJohn

Thanks i really need this resource