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Thank you so much for this, I really needed something like this. Thank you, you have no idea how much this is helping me. Thank you! |
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Member Since May 2012
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#24
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Not sure if it's been posted before, but this article on 'Healing Shame' was really interesting and enlightening (for me). http://www.psychsight.com/ar-shame.html A link to other articles by this same author, there is one on abuse. ^ http://www.psychsight.com/article.html Last edited by bohogypsy; May 06, 2012 at 01:39 AM.. |
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Member Since Jun 2012
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#25
Just found this:
http://www.survivormanual.com/ This is an aggregator type site for resources related to recovery. I found a ton of useful information on here on self-care, including a great article about dealing with holidays at home. |
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Member Since Jun 2013
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#26
Tips for Secondary Survivors aka Supporters
This article is very good to share with friends and family who know what you are going through. It's kind of manual. |
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Member Since Jun 2013
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Well, the slide show just reinstilled what I knew. It is always good to check and recheck, just to make sure. My problem is how to get it to stop.
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#28
Excellent article on emotional abuse in childhood, its effects, and recovering from it. By a lawyer with a specialty in children who were sexually assaulted, emotionally and/or physically abused, starved, ignored, abandoned, neglected, and more.
You Carry the Cure In Your Own Heart by Andrew Vachss (Parade Magazine): The Zero 5.0laf - The Official Website of Andrew Vachss __________________ Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. - Mark Twain . |
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Member Since Apr 2013
Location: Never Never Land
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#29
Just read through the links on this thread and found some really helpful information - thanks to those who shared the information.
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Member Since Jul 2013
Location: North east NJ
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Sent from my SM-N900V using Tapatalk __________________ 'Tá brón orm go deo deo i mo chroí'
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Member Since Jul 2014
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#32
Hi All,
Just wanted to recommend the documentary "Private Violence", which just premiered a couple of days ago on HBO. I included a detailed description below, but it's about advocacy for battered women, and is really excellent, very moving (and also very honest, so certainly consider whether it may be triggering for you). One of the questions that the film provides solid answers to is that question of "why don't they just leave?", so I think there is both education and understanding to be had here, for many. They have a website, here Private Violence | Home and some resources, including a link to meetups for related advocacy groups where you can also catch showings of the film... or, request to host your own screening here. Best, vonmoxie ![]() Private Violence is a feature-length documentary film and audience engagement campaign that explores a simple, but deeply disturbing fact of American life: the most dangerous place for a woman in America is her own home. Every day in the US, at least four women are murdered by abusive (and often, ex) partners. The knee-jerk response is to ask: “why doesn’t she just leave?” Private Violence shatters the brutality of this logic. Through the eyes of two survivors – Deanna Walters, a mother who seeks justice for the crimes committed against her at the hands of her estranged husband, and Kit Gruelle, an advocate who seeks justice for all women – we bear witness to the complicated and complex realities of intimate partner violence. Their experiences challenge entrenched and misleading assumptions, providing a lens into a world that is largely invisible; a world we have locked behind closed doors with our silence, our laws, and our lack of understanding. Kit’s work immerses us in the lives of several other women as they attempt to leave their abusers, setting them on a collision course with institutions that continuously and systematically fail them, often blaming victims for the violence they hope to flee. The same society that encourages women to seek true love shows them no mercy when that love turns dangerous. As Deanna transforms from victim to survivor, Private Violence begins to shape powerful, new questions that hold the potential to change our society: “Why does he abuse?” “Why do we turn away?” “How do we begin to build a future without domestic violence?” __________________ “We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.” — Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28) |
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Member Since Oct 2014
Location: UK
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I know it comes from PC, yet has it's place, right here.
http://psychcentral.com/lib/recoveri...eglect/0001384 Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk |
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Member Since Aug 2015
Location: UK
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Member Since Dec 2013
Location: In a house
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#36
Adult ADHD Often Associated with Childhood Abuse | Psych Central News
This article helped me understand the relationship between my childhood physical abuse and my ADD. I did however, feel kind of crappy that the abuse is somewhat my fault. If I had controlled my behavior better, my parents might have treated me AND my siblings better. __________________ "Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."-Not Benjamin Franklin |
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Member Since Jan 2016
Location: Virginia
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#37
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I hope I'm doing this right. Anyway, here's an article on mother-daughter sexual abuse. Mother-daughter Sexual Abuse - Support for Survivors of Mother-daughter Sexual Abuse I thought I'd post this. Just as an a resource for a subject that, in survivor circles, isn't talked about as often. |
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Member Since Jul 2012
Location: UK
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Member Since Apr 2018
Location: England
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#39
Recovery and self-pity: http://pete-walker.com/pdf/RecoverySelfPity.pdf
Wonderful article on why it’s ok and important to feel sorry for yourself |
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Member Since Jun 2007
Location: Washington DC metro area
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#40
Can people be saved from a terrible childhood? | Lauren Zanolli | World news | The Guardian
At bottom there is a revolutionary idea. It’s about moving from ‘what’s wrong with you?’ to ‘what happened to you?’ __________________ Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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