[Miracle1986]

..... I am a survivor.
I am really nervous about posting in this section of PC because that means I have face everything that has happened to me.

• I met a guy on the internet and and he seduced me and we would have cyber sex a lot. I don't know if that counts as sexual abuse or not... since, yes I was underage and he like in his 50's (but he was smart. He knew what to say to keep me coming back for more), and it was all "virtual" sex. That went on from about 2002-2004.
• Christmas of 2006, I was molested by my drunken aunt.
• In August of 2007, while my husband was deployed, I was brutally raped by a stranger at my apartment complex.
• I have always suffered mental/emotional abuse by people (namely my family) who I think in their hearts mean well but are every over-protective to the point of being smothering.

(((((manda)))))
Not good enough with words anymore, but still here for you

[phoenix7]

((((manda))))) I am so sorry this happened to you - my heart breaks - I hope you have a T to work through this with you and yes I think the 50yr old counts as abuse.

Please take gentle care of yourself ok - come here when you can - and if you can - there is no pressure and alot of support here.

take care P7 (hugs if ok)

[Fuzzybear]

manda

[googley]

Know you are not alone, we are here to support you.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Manda86

I have always suffered mental/emotional abuse by people (namely my family) who I think in their hearts mean well but are every over-protective to the point of being smothering.

So you never learned to be empowered because of this ^ ????? I am sorry that all of that happened to you

[Miracle1986]

Originally Posted by Sannah

So you never learned to be empowered because of this ^ ?????

empowered because it? I can be empowerd because of it?

[tryingtobeme]

Manda, you are not alone here. I wish you the best as your take this journey of healing.

[Sannah]

All that I was saying is that if you are raised in an overprotective environment you can learn that you are weak (because everyone is doing things for you and not letting you do them yourself).

[Miracle1986]

Originally Posted by Sannah

All that I was saying is that if you are raised in an overprotective environment you can learn that you are weak (because everyone is doing things for you and not letting you do them yourself).

ahh I see... sadly yes, I am very weak. My self esstem is almost non-existant as well, because I lived for so long in my parents (mom's) overprotective-ness that I don't even know who I am.

[turquoisesea]

(((((((((((((((manda)))))))))))))))))))

how brave of you

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Manda86

ahh I see... sadly yes, I am very weak. My self esstem is almost non-existant as well, because I lived for so long in my parents (mom's) overprotective-ness that I don't even know who I am.

But you can become empowered! and understanding how you got where you are is very important info. You can build up your confidence and self-esteem by planning on doing certain things for yourself and taking a very big note of it when you do so that you can learn that you are a competent person! Maybe make a thread for yourself somewhere (and make sure that I notice it!) where you outline what you need to do/learn, make plans to try these things out and report your successes and challenges so that we can cheer you on???????