[NuckingFutz]

I am having a hard time. I got triggered by the romance with therapist threads. I am so confused and angry and scared. Flashbacks of men trapping me, vomited, head hurts bad. Sharp pains above my left ear. Took max dose of klonopin and do not feel it. Hate this. Can't sleep. Want to stop therapy cause I do not want to be abused or scared. Sex with a care giver is abuse. It is like the clergy scandal or a relative. If we on here do not know this basic fact, what are we teaching eachother? To stay sick because the counselors are just as sick? To abandon and hurt the families we created? I wanna hide.

[darkrunner]

NF,
I don't know what to say, except you are not alone.
I was extremely triggered by those threads as well.
I hope they get a trigger icon put on them soon.
I agree with everything you have said.

Take heart - not all T's are predators.
Your awareness will protect you from being harmed.
I hope you take these feelings to therapy - please don't hide from them.
Take care.

[Elysium]

I hear what you're saying. I too have been triggered by these topics.

I'm sorry that you were triggered. It's okay to hide for a bit if this makes you feel comfortable.

I encourage you to think about your T's and your relationship that you have had. Has it been healthy thus far? Has your T ever given you a reason to not trust them or to fear them? I know it's really hard because we are so vulnerable to other folks...especially to our T's, but try and remember that those sick T's aren't yours. You have the power in your T relationship and you have the power and authority to say what is safe for you and not safe. It is a choice to give up your power and safety to your T; you don't have to do this.

These folks that stay in these abusive T relationships are choosing to do so. Like why women stay with any abuser. There are multiple reasons that women stay...for the kids, because they are reliant on their abuser financially, or because they are reliant on their abusers for what they think is a healthy form of love, but is really just another form of abuse. It is a choice to remain in an unhealthy, non-therapeutic, destructive relationship.

Most important though is that this is not you!!! This is NOT a position you are in. This is someone else's issue. Let them own it.

I'm hoping to hear that you are in a healthy relationship with your T. If not, then we can talk more about how to get you to a better place. If you are...don't allow other's issues to pollute your therapeutic relationship. Talk with your T about this. Explore it with them and let them know how and why you feel so bothered by the topic. It may lead you somewhere and connect with something totally different than where it seems to.

I'm here for you!! Did you ever realize.....HEALthy...it's healing!!

Much luv

[NuckingFutz]

Thank you so much for your responses. I am safe in my theraputic relationship. It does remind me of the Roman Catholic Church scandal and the like. Gives me great pause when a woman wovld advise another woman to to defile one of the commandments to be able to be with her t. The advice to lie to her hubby. There are a lot of reasons these t's can get their licence pulled and for valad reasons. Maybf they do not think they are hurting their spouces. But if we spoke to those spouces, they would be less than overjoyed. And when one client mentioned a love affair, 2 more came out...scarey. Then when these relationships fall apart, guess wio will be needing our support after this site has been called brutal and jvdgemental. If that is the case, why contioue to post here? My t is very professional but have been in some iffy groups in the past.

[AShadow721]

I agree, that is abuse, and it is similar to the Catholic Chruch scandal. We are supposed to be able to trust our therapists more than most people in our lives. What some of these people's therapists are doing in totally unethical. If anyone found out about it, he would have his licence taken away. I think the people in that forum group may not see that it is a bad thing or may not think their therapist is really hurting them. I therapist should explain to the client that the client is having romantic feelings only because they have Florence Nightingale Syndrome, not because they are true feelings. A good therapist should know of the syndrome in detail and know how to treat it. Starting an affair with a client would definitely NOT be the proper treatment for such a thing. These therapist should be reported to the police. They are abusing their clients and their positon of power and the trust their clients must give them willingly in order to be treated.