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Jul 23, 2010, 03:31 AM
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He won't listen to me when I tell him to go for help. To tell his grandparents. He says they live too far away and it would be too much trouble and he doesn't wanna tell the police because then he might get taken from his mother. His to-be stepfather has beaten him and his brother many times, is verbally abusive to them and their mother and uses any excuse to punish them. Their mother does nothing to stop this except promising to them that she'll get him to change. But someone like that, will never change and hasn't since they've been together. I cannot stand to see my friend in this situation. But he shoots down any advice I try to give. I've moved far away, very far, so I cannot give help personally; I cannot tell them to live at my house. I live in Ontario, Canada and he in Oregon, USA. What do I tell him to do?
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Jul 23, 2010, 04:30 AM
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Hello, LittleForgetMeNot.
It is very kind of you to be so concerned for your friend. I wanted to let you know that ANYone can report child abuse. The initial reporting does not need to come from the child that is being harmed. That means that you can report the abuse yourself to the police in the state where he lives, or to a U.S. child abuse hotline, or to the department of child welfare in the state where he lives. You could also tell your own parents, or another trusted adult, such as a teacher, counselor, coach, or clergy person, what is going on, and ask them to help you with this. You should be prepared for the fact that your friend's cooperation may be necessary for action to be taken against his step-father. In the mean time you can help your friend tremendously by just being there for him, and letting him know how much you care. That kind of support can make a world of difference. I wish you both safety with this. ~Julia |
 Sannah
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Jul 25, 2010, 05:58 AM
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littleforgetmenot...
You can call the abuse hotline and report their beatings; once they are under notice they must be careful if they don't want to be charged... Other than that you can only support him. If he doesn't want real help, which he doesn't, there is simply no other way
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