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Wise Elder
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Nov 14, 2010 at 04:49 PM
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I remember someone once writing that they thought their abusive parent was a good person overall but a bad parent. This has made me really mad with society. I think my abusive parents would be seen in this dichotomy. They were mostly good people and were able to be successful in social aspects and business aspects of their lives. But at home they were abusive. If you had asked people what they thought about my parents they would have said that they are wonderful people. But this makes me so mad!
 Why do they get all this praise for the good things they have done when at home they are abusive? Why doesn't that get taken into consideration? Everyone thinks they are so wonderful. But really they aren't. But it doesn't matter what they do at home. They can be abusive and it doesn't matter. People still think they are good people. It is like as long as they can hide it, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what they do to me. Society still thinks they are these wonderful people.
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Nov 14, 2010 at 05:40 PM
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(((googley))) I too feel this way about my parents. It especially makes me angry when my T tries to get me to see why my parents were the way they were... and what happens? I get to deal with all the crap and pick up the pieces while they remain good in the eyes of society. WTF? is the justice?? Why do they get a get out of jail free card and we get to fix ourselves. They abused me and yet I get to work my *** off as an adult to try and heal from their F ups! Sorry googley for venting on your thread
 I know where you are coming from. Wishing you peace.  
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Nov 14, 2010 at 06:26 PM
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(((((((((geez)))))))))
No problem for venting in my thread. You are welcome to do it. I just wish they had to pay for the T that I need to get myself fixed. They caused the damage, why can't they pay for it? If they damaged someone else's property they would be responsible for paying for the damage. But once again, the private/public split protects them from having to do anything about their damage. |
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Nov 14, 2010 at 07:26 PM
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I'm sorry you both feel this way!
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Nov 16, 2010 at 03:00 PM
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Very good points Googley and Geez..............
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