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OK ... its been 2 years.....dealt with the CSA and other abuse issues. Now I am just trying to figure out life and have a clear head. I had been going to T weekly for most of this time. Recently I have been going more spread out to every other week. Lately I am not sure I want to go at all. There are propbably several reasons, but one that just sticks in my head. I feel close to T. I feel like he is a very good friend and that we have a connection. I dont mean in a mushy way, although at one point I did feel in love with him. But I dont now. I mean he has his own life, and I have mine. He is going to be getting married soon and I am just a patient. I am trying to live my life. I guess I feel a little lost on where to go from here. It really doesnt have to do with him so much, at least I dont think so. Although I do feel more like pushing away now more and more, and I wonder if it is because I know he is getting married or if there is another reason.
I spoke with a good friend of mine and he says it is because I am growing and that it is normal to grow out of therapy. What does that mean exactly? Are we supposed to feel this way? Am I supposed to not want T anymore? meaning not want to go and talk. I still have issues. Am I supposed to figure them out now by myself? Maybe my questions sound a little childlike. idk. I guess I wonder how to know that I just dont need him anymore. part of me feels like I will miss him soo much but part of me wants to let him go and never see him again. WHY? kinda makes me want to cry when I think to much about it. __________________ 10-2009 A trademark of Sunny:P-productions.....sharing with the world....everybody wants to be in the sunshine! Dont they? __________________ Wish I WERE somewhere sunny.... Sunny :P |
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Issues - These are all things I have been working on with T and continue to.
CSA - well I guess I am done with it - whatever that means social anxiety - T says group therapy would be good - I am working on this issue and trying to go out and do things and connect with people. This is very difficult but something T says I need to take these steps and so I have been Saying no to my family - still working on it Finding peace in my head - still working on this Coping with anxiety - still working on this Fixing self esteem issues - still working on this Self image issues - got these just fiigure it will get better somehow Getting overwhelmed and stressed out from work - working on NOT working so much Being satisfied with my life or finding what I am passionate about - not making a hasty choice but trying different things that interest me - Taking care of ME...still working on this one. __________________ 10-2009 A trademark of Sunny:P-productions.....sharing with the world....everybody wants to be in the sunshine! Dont they? __________________ Wish I WERE somewhere sunny.... Sunny :P |
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This seems like enough stuff to keep working with T on.
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Do you think there are times when changing T is good. When do people change T's .... is it normal to change T's or do people always stay with the T they started with?
Maybe I feel like I have run my course with him. Maybe I feel like he is gonna be too busy for me with his new life. Sometimes I think I am just to tired to get there -his office os further away now and so it really is a commitment to go. Maybe I will just go once a month and see how it goes from there. Thanks for reading my stuff ...I know I have been writing a lot. __________________ 10-2009 A trademark of Sunny:P-productions.....sharing with the world....everybody wants to be in the sunshine! Dont they? __________________ Wish I WERE somewhere sunny.... Sunny :P |
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Is he still helping you?
It does seem like you are reacting to him getting married? __________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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I went to see him yesterday and I was a little anxious about how I am feeling ... I had written stuff about this and so I gave it to him ...my words .... my feeling like I am struggling a little .... I guess I am reacting a little to him getting married....I guess I kinda feel like a kid who doesnt want to share him....haha ... so silly! My other friend said I should be happy for him....hmm inside I feel like a kid that has her arms folded across her chest pouting! "I dont want to be happy for him!" bratty.... I have written him since in email and I think he will respond like he always does...kind and caring and understanding. I dont think changing T would be good for me. I guess I need to work through whatever it is that is nagging at me inside... I wish I was normal like people who never had to deal with these issues .... I guess I wish I could grow up to meet someone like him... so silly....41 and still trying to figure life out.... and how to be close to people and be healthy thanks __________________ 10-2009 A trademark of Sunny:P-productions.....sharing with the world....everybody wants to be in the sunshine! Dont they? __________________ Wish I WERE somewhere sunny.... Sunny :P |
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I got beyond wishing that I had a better upbringing. I was/am just glad that I am figuring things out and moving forward. Remember "an unexamined life isn't worth living". It really is okay. __________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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