I need help for my niece, I don't know what to do.

Ardmore · Feb 17, 2011 at 12:52 PM

Thank god for PC, I don't know who to turn to for help.

My niece is 8 years old, she lives with her mother (my sister), her father is a puck freeloader he is barely in her life.
I'm starting to believe that he is abusing her, when she comes back from a weekend at her dads (he lives in Ohio) she has bruises all down her arm, when I asked her who did that?
She said that her "2 year old brother did it".
I find it very hard to believe that a 2 year old caused her bruises and scratches.

Another thing, when ever someone asks her how her weekend at her dads was, she acts depress and said it was alright.

I even told my mom and sister(her mother) what I thought and they said nothing about it, they just basically said "oh, OK".

My niece means alot to me, if I ever found out that her dad is hurting her...

I'm not sure what to do, any advice?

invisigirl · Feb 17, 2011 at 01:01 PM

perhaps bring it up to her mother again and let her know that you are REALLY concerned about it. if she still ignores it, perhaps you could call your local child protective services? or even a domestic violence hotline? at least to ask for advice. let them know that you are concerned that a child might be being abused and you want to make sure she is safe.

I really hope you can help her.

Ardmore · Feb 17, 2011 at 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by invisigirl

perhaps bring it up to her mother again and let her know that you are REALLY concerned about it. if she still ignores it, perhaps you could call your local child protective services? or even a domestic violence hotline? at least to ask for advice. let them know that you are concerned that a child might be being abused and you want to make sure she is safe.

I really hope you can help her.

Thank you but, her life is already hard enough as it is, I'm afraid to call CPS because I think it'll just make things more complicated for her, My sister already hates me, I don't want to give her another reason.

I try to be there for her but now it's nearly impossible

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NuckingFutz · Feb 17, 2011 at 01:26 PM

Oh let's say that the roles are reversed, you are your neice and she is you. Now wouldn't you want help? Even if it "ruffles feathers"?

There is a number you can call in my signature line. At least talk to someone. Find out what you can do and also get some support for yourself.

Hugs for you and your neice.

Ardmore · Feb 17, 2011 at 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by NuckingFutz

Oh let's say that the roles are reversed, you are your neice and she is you. Now wouldn't you want help? Even if it "ruffles feathers"?

There is a number you can call in my signature line. At least talk to someone. Find out what you can do and also get some support for yourself.

Hugs for you and your neice.

You make a good point but, I know I can't just ask the asshole, I know he'll deny it, and their may be a possibility that he's not the one doing it.

I don't want to call and then being called a liar by my B***h of a sister.
if I'm wrong.

invisigirl · Feb 17, 2011 at 01:37 PM

I'm sure her life is very rough! should it continue to be so? getting help may initially make things a little harder. BUT if it makes them better in the end, is it not worth it?

making a call is not going to make things harder. a call doesn't even involve her or either of her parents. it is simply for getting some information to see if you can help her. I know that it is not an easy thing to do, but I can hear how much you care about your niece and I know you want to help her be safe.

lynn P. · Feb 17, 2011 at 01:41 PM

Do you ever get some alone time with your niece - if you do, then come right out and ask her if her dad caused these bruises and let her know if she's ever in a tight spot, she can tell her teacher or call you. She's old enough to understand about physical abuse. If you have the opportunity, teach her about what to do if anyone physically abuses her. For example, I've taught my girls from an early age, never to allow anyone to hurt them and to blab out loud if it ever were to happen. I hope she's not being abused.

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