I didn't put this in the dream forum because I don't really need it interpreted. The dream I just woke up from is very clear in what it says. The specific incidents didn't actually happen in real life, but the sentiments did.

There are boundary violations throughout the dream. Please be cautious.

I dreamed I was a child again, approximate age of 12, the oldest of four with two brothers and a sister. We were at my grandmother's house for a family gathering. I had gone to the restroom, and as I was finishing up, I noticed to my horror that brother #1 was peeking in the door watching me. I screamed at him to get away, and screamed for my mother to come and get him. Nothing happened. He continued to watch me, and I continued screaming. Finally my mother approached--to tell me to shut up and quit making all that noise. Brother #1 left me in peace now, his mission accomplished.

Later we were sent to play outside. Brother #2 and I started out peacefully, pretending we were puppies. Then, reasoning that dogs sniff each other's behinds, he stuck his rear end into my face, and I got nostrils full of body parts I don't want anywhere near my nostrils. Again I screamed in protest. Again my parents disciplined me for making the noise. Even though brother #2 defended me, saying he had made a mistake and it was his fault, this was ignored.

And in the final part of the dream, brother #1 is telling a family court judge about his peeking in at me: "It's not that I want to see her. I mean, she's ugly, why would anyone want to look at her? But I like to make her *think* I'm looking at her. She starts yelling and screaming, and it's funny to watch. And the best part is when she gets in trouble for yelling. They'll tell me I shouldn't have been trying to look at her, but I don't get punished for it, and it's worth the scolding to see her put on a show." The judge then ruled that we should be removed from our home and placed in foster care, whereupon everyone was angry at ME because I just "couldn't keep my mouth shut" and "broke up the family."

The message in the dream is obvious. This *is* the way things were at my house. If someone offended me or violated my personal boundaries, that infraction was secondary to my screaming about it. Me making all that noise, now *that* disturbed the peace, which was the real crime that needed to be dealt with. It happened all the time. "I don't care what he was doing. You're the one we heard." Another thing that was often said in our family was, "Loose lips sink ships." You know what? I've come to the conclusion that if a ship is so un-seaworthy that words will sink it, that ship has no business sailing.

I don't know what I'm asking for here. Just a chance to vent that disturbing dream, I suppose.

[Butterflies Are Free]

This is an upsetting dream and I am glad you posted it. I find that dreams like this point to what someone still needs to process(as far as events/feelings in their life). It must have been so hard for you growing up and having your personal boundaries violated.
I can relate to this in many ways and find that today, I still have trouble at times setting boundaries with other people. I am trying to learn that I have a right to protect my body, mind, emotions, etc... You have a right to whatever personal boundaries you need.

[Sannah]

Good insight LBF. This self understanding of what happened to you is vital for healing.