[scilence]

Hello Everyone,
I am new to the website and figured this could be helpful with what I am going through. I am a 26 year old wife, mother, and college student. Over the past 3 weeks I start seeing a therapist. I am not the type to ask for help unless I know I can't do it on my own. This being no exception, I was forced to go see a therapist. I don't like the idea of it. After the 3rd session I walked out and cancelled. After she called me to find out I decided to go back and talk to her. I find it very hard to talk to someone about the past and have not with her. She is very patient and understands. Any tips for me?

[2bme]

Hi! Welocome to PC. My only advice is to be kind to yourself. Don't put pressure on yourself by expecting a quick fix. It will take time and will be very painful at times. Hope therapy will be healing for you.
2bme

[Bill3]

Any tips for me?

I'm glad that you went back. Know that it will take a while to be comfortable with your T and with therapy.

[Tigressnred]

I would say as in with any other relationship communicate, communicate, communicate. In other words if you are feeling overwhelmed, or things are going to fast, or slow, or your scared and want to run communicate that to your T. You will feel better and your T will be able to help better........

I understand the running thing. Fight or flight. I was forced to go to counseling in foster care and well, just to share a story so you know it is not uncommon to want to do either. One time I was so mad about being forced to go, I went into their bathroom and pulled down all their paper towels and threw them on the floor, unrolled all their toilet paper, and dumped all their hand soap from the dispensers needless to say it was a big mess, but in the end I was in fight mode because I was so scared.......

good luck and always know you have us here at PC and you can always message me if you need a friend!

[Sannah]

Hi Scilence, welcome to PC. You already got some good replies. I would add get support here. It will be hard but keep pushing yourself at your own pace. You will feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, ashamed, scared, angry, etc., etc. Keep moving forward and work through it.

[scilence]

Thanks for everyone's support!! This is all very new to me... I never thought I would be in this position. I was always the one bringing people out of their shell and making people laugh. And one day.. I started having flashbacks, my husband (who is such a good man but doesn't know anything) started seeing things wasn't the same with me, and nightmares and I haven't been the same since.. I still haven't been able to talk to my husband about it.. What a horrible thing to keep from your husband... Not that he won't understand but I don't want him to worry..

[BLUEDOVE]

Hi S,
You don't know it yet,but this is your first step to loving yourself and the child
inside you.Right now,you're all she has-she's depending on you.She's brought you
this far,now it's your turn to return the beauty,the nobility,the love.I wish you COURAGE,ENDURANCE,and LOVE.If your T.is a good human being,then trust her,and
yourself to see you through.There will be times you want to give up,THAT'S when you have to say to yourself,"I will not be beaten,I will not be beaten!"
Deepest Respect+Kindness,
BLUEDOVE