[suzzie]

im working on csa in t. in my last session there was a tissue box that was never there before. and she used one. also she has been seeming sad by somethings i say or do the last few sessions. and always asks if im sad. i usually dont answer. just starting to think that she thinks im going to. but i never cry. even when im alone. i dont like it. does it matter if i dont. i think it would make her happy if i did. like its progress. but i cant. i really dont like to. and always fight it. i dont see any point to it for me. and wont ever. will this affect the progress. hope not. there are certain things i cant do. and crying is one. a big one. so hoping its not that important. or big an expectation from ts.

[darkrunner]

I think most Ts have seen it all - from people who show no emotion to those who let it all out. I doubt that Ts have expectations around this behavior.

But I think if it's something you are wondering about in particular with your T, it is perfectly ok to ask her about it. In fact, those are great questions to ask, especially the one about if she thinks it would affect the progress.

(((((Suzzie)))))

[Xeneon]

I never cried in counseling!! Some T's think if you never cry, you will never heal competely. Everything takes time, it will happen if its suppost to happen. Take care!!!

[*doodles*]

I can't cry either. But I don't like it, because its a numb feeling, and I think it is a way of avoiding for me, I don't know if its similar for you. So I would definitely see crying as progress, but who knows if that will ever happen.

I have never cried in a session. I have cried plenty on the way home...But I will say a few times my T. has teared up. Sometimes I think they r just sad for us and other times that they are trying to model that it is okay to show emotions. The only significance that tears had for me was that I had a lid tightly screwed on all the thoughts and feelings around the CA...when I was finally able to loosen the lid...the tears came....

Every person is different...

[yellowted]

i never used to cry, no matter what, but then all of a sudden one day i began, great floods of the things, i can't remember the trigger, but now i cry often, not daily , but often. I find crying exhausts me and makes me feel calmer, but i do not like the vulnerability it shows, so still never cry around people, only when i am alone (usually the trigger is a death ór funeral on a soap on TV) i think it is because i stayed strong when my partner was burried and can empathise with the loss.

[Mediator]

I was once at counselling and I tell that I was abused and she asked me why I am laughing, I replied that it is better than cry. I am writing her my looking at my life, I feel ok to write and I cry. I think what is healing is to be open. I do meditation so I am more in touch with myself what is helping to did not play something as "It is better to smile than cry."
Yes she asked me I feel that I am depressed and in the moment I could not be depressed I was upset.

[Marie123]

The components/chemicals in tears are different when they are tears of pain and grief as opposed to happy tears.

The chemicals literally help heal.

[Sannah]

One day at a time Suzzie...........